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Moonstruck​(sub female)
8 months ago • Fri 17 May 2019 05:24:17 AM IDT
Moonstruck​(sub female) • Fri 17 May 2019 05:24:17 AM IDT
I can see where, even if you're not going to use it or sign it as a "contract," there would be great benefit in the act of composing one. It's a time when you MUST address the expectations of and responsibilities to both yourself and your partner. You bring things out in the open, things that you may not have communicated because you may not have really thought about them or had the opportunity to address them. This is a time when you get on the same page, so to speak. I can't see where knowing each other's expectations and recognizing the fact that you are both open and aware of those requirements could be a bad thing.
MasterBrads painpet​(sub female){OWNED}
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 11:02:42 PM IDT
MasterBrads painpet​(sub female){OWNED} • Thu 16 May 2019 11:02:42 PM IDT
DomAnt wrote:
Minx,
The link does not work. It apparently had added a second http on the front of the address.
Ant


OK I will go see if I can change it. I may not be able to but will loom for it only.

I know alot of Doms don't like contracts but I had a Master very high protocols. But it's a good contract those who do.
DaddyAnt​(dom male)
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 10:36:39 PM IDT
DaddyAnt​(dom male) • Thu 16 May 2019 10:36:39 PM IDT
Minx,
The link does not work. It apparently had added a second http on the front of the address.
Ant
notsounsureanymore{Not Lookin}
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 09:04:21 PM IDT
notsounsureanymore{Not Lookin} • Thu 16 May 2019 09:04:21 PM IDT
I can absolutely see the benefit of a contract but personally the formality of it would make me want to run away.
MasterBrads painpet​(sub female){OWNED}
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 07:17:24 PM IDT
MasterBrads painpet​(sub female){OWNED} • Thu 16 May 2019 07:17:24 PM IDT
As I was told it's for safety of both. To me yes it was long but it was about accountability. We both were adults but it still felt like something of protection. Even though not legal you had something to fall back on. I think they are okay in a way but it all boils down to the dynamic of the relationship
BabyGirlFL​(sub female)
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 06:24:12 PM IDT
BabyGirlFL​(sub female) • Thu 16 May 2019 06:24:12 PM IDT
@AKittenForSir, thank you for the suggestion. I have been keeping a list of my own in my iPhone and adding to it as more things come up. icon_smile.gif
AKittenforSir​(sub female){JohnBond}
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 06:22:04 PM IDT
AKittenforSir​(sub female){JohnBond} • Thu 16 May 2019 06:22:04 PM IDT
BabyGirlFL wrote:
My Dom and I don’t have a contract (and I am not collared) but we have been exclusive for over 6 months and have plans for the future. I think a contract would help me because I have a hard time following the rules/expectations if I don’t know them, and if I don’t know them, I will break them, and if I break them, I will severely disappoint Sir and/or be punished. Granted we are getting to know each other and I am learning about His expectations, but I am really a list girl. It’s often subject to interpretation if it’s not in black and white. And I don’t like the consequences for the gray area stuff. Doesn’t feel fair.


You should ask your Sir for a list of rules and correlating punishments. Let him know it would help you immensely in understanding what he wants and expects. If you’re clear with him about your need for clarity and the underlying desire to please, he should be willing to provide you with that. You don’t have to wait for a contract to have written rules.
MasterBrads painpet​(sub female){OWNED}
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 04:57:08 PM IDT

Re: A very interesting take on a contract

MasterBrads painpet​(sub female){OWNED} • Thu 16 May 2019 04:57:08 PM IDT
[quote="DomAnt"]The website called dominantguide (no www) has a contract outline where the Dom is the Employer and the sub the Emlployee.
It's very outlined including vehicle and hotel/lodging expenses.
I can see adding parts of this into a contract.[/quote

I still have a copy of my 1st and only contract. It's long but good covers so much. No room for any ambiguity.
DaddyAnt​(dom male)
8 months ago • Thu 16 May 2019 04:38:55 PM IDT

A very interesting take on a contract

DaddyAnt​(dom male) • Thu 16 May 2019 04:38:55 PM IDT
The website called dominantguide (no www) has a contract outline where the Dom is the Employer and the sub the Emlployee.
It's very outlined including vehicle and hotel/lodging expenses.
I can see adding parts of this into a contract.