Dommes: What Kind of Subs Do You Like?

Dommes: What Kind of Subs Do You Like?

Azzabackam​(switch male){PawPawGirl} • Jul 8, 2019

This is something that fascinates me. I don't think any demographic in the community varies so wildly in taste, as a whole, than Dommes.

Some want a man who stands up for himself, and is generally "strong" in the classic sense, but submissive in bed. Some want a doormat that will let them do as they please. Some want a servant. Some want an equal. Some want a sub that'll fight back. Some want a man who melts into puddy in their hands. Some want a man they can go borderline Guantanamo Bay on with pain. Some want a pet they can pamper.

So, I'd like to take a survey. Dommes: what do you look for in a sub? Or rather, what would your ideal sub be?

Max Sterne​(dom male){Morley} • Jul 8, 2019

Honestly I like a brat. I get bored easily with most things so I need someone who is going to challenge me and keep me on my toes. It's a fine line though since I do not like being disrespected.

Fyglia Wicked​(dom female) • Jul 9, 2019

Like attracts like .

Azzabackam​(switch male){PawPawGirl} • Jul 9, 2019

@Max Sterne

While I was originally narrowed down to female Dommes, I'm still super interested in your answer. If it's active engagement that's your main focus, does it specifically have to be a bratty sub for you to find your challenge?

Azzabackam​(switch male){PawPawGirl} • Jul 9, 2019

@Fyglia Wicked

So, I take it that means you're only interested in a sub that's the type to be strong-willed and confident?

MasterBear​(other butch) • Jul 10, 2019

Two way conversation.
Drive.
Intelligence.
Sexually experienced.
Experienced in play
Understands service as an external experience.
Emotionally evolved.
No drinking, no using, no small kids

MissBonnie​(dom female){oz} • Jul 10, 2019

Alpha in the streets, beta in the sheets. I have a saying I use "it takes a strong man to stand tall, even when kneeling"
I want power exchange. If he (or she) doesn't have some kind of strength to give, I have nothing to take. I want pull and tug. Give and take. I want my strength to be his weakness. My weakness to be his strength. I want him to act to in my best interest, which in turns means I act in his.
I want proactive submission, not reactive.
I'm not a pleather clad howler monkey, I don't need weak, spineless or worthless anything.
A door mat is of no use to me if doesn't occasionally stand up.

Max Sterne​(dom male){Morley} • Jul 10, 2019

So first I have to say that clearly my reading glasses are defective so my apologies for that.

Definitely a brat is not the only option. I am a rope geek in the worst way. A submissive who is as deeply rooted in rope, a deeply dedicated rope bunny, who had the ability to be an ultra patient rope model (I am an amateur photographer as well) would also interest me if she had the deep desire to delve into this with me.

Fyglia Wicked​(dom female) • Jul 10, 2019

Strong people have a strong will.
The stigma that submissives are weak are for the clueless and weak misogynist/misandry who play Dom/me .

Aurelia​(dom female) • Jul 10, 2019

I LOVE a strong man who doesn't mind being knocked down a few pegs. Just like men like the juxtaposition of a princess by day slut at night. I love the Alpha by day and a slave at night

I echo the same sentiments as @MsBonnie. I like men with an established career or men with the potential to be great. I have to admit as a woman, biologically, I can't deny I am drawn to traditional male strength. I love to be coaxed and challenged as a domme, so doormats are no fun. I tried and it was horrible

Now that doesn't mean I won't play with extremely submissive men; I just know that long term it can be very unfulfilling. I need to respect the man somewhat even though I'm humiliating, degrading, training, and enslaving him.

A submissive man who is 80% submissive and 20% bratty would be perfect.