7 months ago • 08/19/2019 9:22 am
MstrSol(dom male) • 08/19/2019 9:22 am
My own method uses a daily review time where we both commit to spending time together 1 on 1 at a specified time. For me that is 10.30 pm at night. Personally, i use that to review the day, talk about what is working well, talk about what is not working well, talk about tomorrow and really anything that we'd like to talk about. The point though is not what you talk about, its the fact that you connect. Its a time to be in each other's presence, to re-centre to each other and to the dynamic. I think the key thing for me is to agree on the commitment to doing that. Of course life sometimes happens and things get in the way, but if you make it a habit, it works well for you. That way you can have a highly busy day and still be absolutely sure that you will get your Dom's attention at the end.
Excellent point. The key is being completely focused and present when you are with your partner. Most people try to do too much. It is better to do fewer things well.
A corollary is that while you should make fewer commitments, you should try to never break commitments once you make them. If you fail because of circumstances beyond your control, then acknowledge it and apologize sincerely.