Trying to improve/define/work on my confidence as a Dom
6 months ago • 09/09/2019 8:50 am
CuriousDom(dom male) • 09/09/2019 8:50 am
I'm a relatively new Dom, developed an interest in it from a previous relationship where she was sort of my Sub.
Although she loved putting it in that way, we never got to put into practice as much as I would like, which is of course not her fault,
I just wanted to experiment more and she seemed to already create an image of me that wouldn't seem to let her see me in that light.
She has a very specific way of seeing things and once something is given an image she tends to stick to that.
tl;dr: Didn't get the chance to really dive into where we could go as a DomSub.
Now I've recently started seeing a polyamourous switch (I'm poly too) who prefers to tap into more of her submissiveness around me.
We've already met and messed around a bit, but I've noticed that a kind of anxiety is starting to develop in me. I'm starting to get really insecure
about myself, getting anxious over being anxious about reading into things too much. Thoughts like "Am I even being a Dom right? Does she
doubt my ability to do so? Does she even want to see me again?" and it seriously is messing with my ability to keep a Dom kind of energy.
I'm not really sure what kind of advice I'd be looking for, I have a feeling I know what anyone would reply to this or the kind of advice they'd give
already. I guess it would help to hear it from someone in the community, someone who has maybe gone through it or is experienced enough to
give me words of wisdom.