Enamored Dominant or Just a Lunatic?

SkipperC​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

well meesh if he was mentored improperly and he doesn't come on the cage then he will just be a bad dom and treat you wrongly.

meeshymeesh​(sub female){Pending...} • Oct 18, 2019

He doesn’t know I posted to this forum, nor does he know I even have this account. So I didn’t say that I was going to move in with him or go on in having kids with him, I wanted to know if this was typical behavior or not. I got my answer, and I thank you all for that. I’m not trying to rationalize you or anyone as I am just stating the facts that you all don’t know him and that maybe he was just mentored improperly. His idea was that being that he’s financially dependable, he could take care of me and a kid if need be, which no, I’m not interested in raising a kid under those conditions. I know that babies are a lot of work and I’m still young. I stated how much time we’ve spent talking and whatnot to show that we have been attracted to one another enough to talk at all times of the day and night as some people here were saying that he doesn’t seem to be showing any signs of affection or anything. He’s already tried saying I love you this soon which I makes me feel even more that he’s a bit caught up in the idea of things. I’m hoping to get him to step back and be realistic.

SkipperC​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

Release him to the hounds we shall devour the untrue of heart the thief the basterd and the cheat, all but meat to THE CAGE ... lol but for real get him on here.

justwatching • Oct 18, 2019

I would LOVE for you to screenshot every comment on this post and show it to him. Or even better, have him get on the cage and he can have a taste from us. We have your back.
I would gladly have a conversation with him about how absolutely wrong he is about everything. He is NOT A DOM. He is a predator and using the lifestyle as an excuse to grab onto you.

justwatching • Oct 18, 2019

As Notok said on the moving:
Why do you need to move in with him so quickly if he’s an hour away. Get to know each other! YOU ARE AN HOUR AWAY. That makes literally no sense to move in with him. ESPECIALLY so soon. that is utter bullshit.
Breeding: are YOU ready and WANTING children by a man you met a week ago? Also, you are 22. How responsible are you? A BABY is not a toy or something you can put down when you’re exhausted. ALSO. is HE EVEN FINANCIALLY READY TO TAKE CARE OF YOU AND A BABY???!!!
Babies are expensive. Kids are expensive.
How do you know once he’s bred you he won’t kick you and this baby to the curb.
You don’t know anything. How do you know he doesn’t have any STD’s.
You don’t. How are you already talking about a contract where you give your life over to him when you don’t know his medical history? He could ruin your life and give you any disease. And don’t tell me “oh he said he’s clean” BULLSHIT. You need a signed document from a doctor proving he is clean.
He is psycho and stop trying to rationalize us with “oh we talk for this many hours and game this many hours” because living with someone and TALKING with someone are VERY different. He is a predator and PREYING on your innocent heart. He is MANIPULATING you. RUN.

SkipperC​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

i would tell him to get on this sight and be willing to learn and be criticized on how he thinks being a dom is supposed to go. At this point he could just be back pedaling momentarily because he knows your talking with others and will just put back on pressure in a few days, or he's a naive virgin who has read way to much hentai and watched to much porn and then should deffinetly come on this sight so he would understand how things are actually done. Dont let a few fun days blind you from the truth, fact is hes known who for less than a week and went straight into trying to control your life thats not healthy even if you take your time he will most likely go right back to that and you will get hurt badly.

SuperEight​(sub female) • Oct 18, 2019

Meeshy,
Sometimes it takes writing everything down and looking at the facts to truly know someone's intentions. I'm sure this man is charming, funny, and kind to you. However, given the EXTREMELY short amount of time you two have known each other, and the fact that you haven't even met in person, it seems he can be very dangerous.
No Dom would ever be giving you a ridiculous time frame for you to become comfortable with them, it just naturally happens over the course of the relationship.
It seems as though he immediately wants to make you entirely dependent on him without you two even getting to know each other. This is the kind of person who cuts you off from all your other resources and makes it damn near impossible to leave them if you want to.
The start of a relationship is always exciting and always clouds certain judgments in the heat of the moment. However, your first question posted was "Is he a lunatic?". If you feel the need to even ask this question, you already have doubts and fears about this man. Listen to those feelings. Listen to Doms and subs alike telling you that this IS NOT NORMAL.
I'm worried for you

Thanks

meeshymeesh​(sub female){Pending...} • Oct 18, 2019

I definitely do think we both may be getting caught up in initial feelings which is why he’s feeling like it is okay to hurry things along. I feel as though if he’s willing to at least wait a few months and or years even, things would work out. The way he’s talking it’s more so that he knows what he wants and he sees what he wants in me so far just after having talked for a few days. I feel like if he was not in it for good he would’ve raged on me when I told him about my hesitance in his expectations.

meeshymeesh​(sub female){Pending...} • Oct 18, 2019

So even if he’s willing to change according to my requests I should still ditch him?

We talk on the phone from 9am-4pm and on his breaks when he’s at work, then we game together from 3am-5am. I know he may seem like a monster based on my post, but I really wanted feedback more so on the idea of moving in and being bred. I value each of your responses on here, and I have let him know that he needs to slow down. He’s respected that and he doesn’t want to move onward with things if I’m not comfortable with them. He’s mentioned bringing flowers or something sweet, he wants to meet my mom already and he wants to go the fair with me. I do connect with him, as I wouldn’t spend so much time talking with him if I didn’t. I really don’t want you guys thinking that I’ve ignored your comments as I have not, and have taken initiative in addressing those with him.

He’s already planned for us to meet in public so that I’m comfortable, so I probably will meet up with him, I have mace, a pocket knife and I know self defense (I do boxing). I’m just trying to see what is what.

Also I met him on a dating app and we matched and learned afterwards that we both were kinky individuals.

Something Different​(dom male) • Oct 18, 2019

The fact that you are allowing him to go into a sales pitch and tell you he is giving you time. What is he like Jesus reincarnated? Wow he is doing you a favor. Your submission is a gift to him not the other way around. The fact that he lives only an hour away and he needs you to move with him is crazy. You’re not worth an hour drive? Your not worth the investment of a few months of getting to know you? The fact that you have never even been a submissive and he is making you a slave your first go around.

You’re not even under consideration. He is just going straight for a contract. The fact that you have men telling you No and you’re still caught up in this situation bothers me a lot. The fact that you have women who have been in this lifestyle longer than you and him and you’re still not listening. You need to allow yourself to do research and learn what this lifestyle is and what it means to be a submissive to a Dom. Please educate yourself.

Once you end up in his home and behind closed doors we can’t help you.