2 months ago • 12/08/2020 7:09 pm
trapbunniebubs(switch female) • 12/08/2020 7:09 pm
I know BabyTgirl is also pretty young, such as myself, but I feel like I've seen a couple of threads asking women about their experiences with men on this site. All the replies on those were from women quite a bit older than myself, and so I'm happy to offer my view on this thread.
1) They clearly don't read (or believe) my bio. I'm not new to this, I have more experience than someone my age should have, and I have a damn good vetting process. I can tell that 90% of them are full of shit, and looking to take advantage of a young woman.
2) The amount of disrespect that I get after I tell them that I'm not interested is staggering. I'm used to college boys getting upset after I turn them down, but I'd hope that men in their +40s would be able to handle some rejection. It goes from them complimenting my beauty and intelligence within almost every sentence, to calling me a "dumb ugly bitch" because I'm not willing to move states for them.
3) I would *never* use this site as a dating site, like BabyTgirl also stated, and I actively try to steer other people I know my age who are interested in this scene, to other resources. It's not a healthy community from what I've seen and had others come to me about, for people in the younger generation. I'm at the point in my life where my academics and professional life comes first. I can't just drop everything to live the BDSM life that most doms on here desire from me, and so I'm happy with where I'm at. I met my boyfriend at my university, and I warmed him up to the thought of being my dom after we were romantically involved. That's the way that I've done it because of my age and responsibilities at the time, and that's what works for me.
4) They don't have enough respect for me, or they have way too much. I tend to get the two extremes of people either expecting submission or dominance from me instantly (yay, love being a switch, double the expectations), and nothing else. What's wrong with chatting first and easing into things?
That ALL goes to say that I know it's not just one-sided. I'm sure women and non-binary people also have issues that they need to work on, but I don't ever really get any messages from those gender groups, even though I am pansexual.