Dom man: How to get started? OR How to be a good dom?
8 months ago • 01/12/2020 8:18 pm
hardplay(dom male) • 01/12/2020 8:18 pm
Some time ago I realized that I prefer a submissive female partner. The idea of taking control of her, and importantly for her to let go and give control to me is very appealing to me. For me this plays on several levels: the emotional connection , and the caring and trust involved.
While I want to be a dom, I am really not sure where to begin. Even before I start looking for a sub, I want to understand what it takes to be a dom.
Well, an online test says I am dominant, but that is not enough!
I don't want to be just taking control, I want to make her trust me and then be able to give me control.
I don't just want to use bondage and switches. I have tried that with willing partners, but at the end of the day it was just pretense. Nothing that I could feel after it was over.
So I am asking here: Where to begin?
I have considered to be a sub, but I do not think I can be one. And I do not want to find a sub and then go through disappointing phase where we both waste our time.