2 months ago • 03/05/2021 2:48 pm
SubtleHush(sub female) • 03/05/2021 2:48 pm
Kelpi said, "Messing with someone's mind is not a good thing but when they want it and need it well that is a matter best left to those who know the game."
Knowing the game isn't even informative. People agree to edgeplay but some don't fully understand thus there is no informed consent. And they don't know how to determine if the other is skilled with what they propose to do.
In the past, those who engaged in edge play were known. They had many who watched them play at dungeons. They taught classes. They had studied under others who were Masters at that skill and they taught skills for it at events.
People approach and say, I am Mater so n so and I ask, "What have you mastered?" To me the title has meaning. You don't just give it to yourself nor have you earned it when someone in the throes of pain or pleasure calls you that. It is a much larger thing. So when I ask and they can't answer it is obvious they are using a word without knowing where it came from.
When people discuss edge play, which is what this is, who vets them as competent? No one. And when someone gets hurt, heaven forbid anyone suggests that the injured party have had done research on their own before agreeing.
If someone said, "I've had my driver's license ten minutes let's go drive on the highway in rush hour traffic," you'd pause.
If they said, "I've always had a fantasy to drive the highway in rush hour traffic." You would not lend them your car.
Yet in these things, people discuss like everyone into has any body of skill at all. The further onto that edge you go, the greater your skills and knowledge need to be.
Between people messing with the minds of others and the rampant number of people with phobias and triggers now in the life, you have to proceed cautiously. It isn't a theoretical discussion. You can do real harm here.
And for those who do not play publicly or care to learn from more knowledgeable teachers, it is simple. Some things require learning and study. You can experiment with it, and play around but you and your partner run a great risk that way. And if you hurt someone it is your ass the police want. Not all outcomes can be washed away by calling an act consensual.
The bottom line is somethings take time and if you won't put the time in, you don't get to do that thing. Experience and investment matter. And when you are unwilling to work at those then concepts that fall into edgeplay should not be where you start.