SubtleHush(sub female) |
3 years ago •
Nov 7, 2020
3 years ago •
Nov 7, 2020
SubtleHush(sub female) • Nov 7, 2020
“Is it ever appropriate for a Dom or Master to use a person’s past hurts to make them more submissive in a relationship?”
(Not as far as I am concerned.) Personally, I’ve read a lot of profiles and have spoken to individuals who say they want to be exploited on every level—even mentally and emotionally. But is psychological play going too far? And is it ever possible that a person’s desire to be psychologically taken over comes from a place of hurt in itself? (Getting therapy is very hard. It can be terrifying for that person because they know that they will have to face painful. traumatic experiences they have sometimes spent years or decades trying to forget. A common theme is to find a way - anyway- to magically heal that deep wound without doing the actual work. It isn't just wrong, its dangerous.) ............. Think of it this way... you go to the doctor with a complaint. He checks you and surprises you by saying that "'this' thing isn't the problem. This problem is actually a by-product of this other thing." Mental/emotional damage can be much like that. Your brain compartmentalizes things and you manifest behaviors to compensate. When you go into therapy for the one thing that you think is the problem, you can find that the journey to that one problem has many twists and turns. Things come you've forgotten or that you actually have memory loss about. There is no short cut to healing. When I see rescuer's "fixing" others psychologically I immediately wonder what they are avoiding working on themselves. Always easier to focus on others and honestly mentally and emotionally healthy people don't typically take on projects. Those who mean it when they say they want you well and will help take care of you, are the ones who say, "Lets get you to a therapist and work on this." To dabble with others when you have zero training or knowledge to do so is reckless. I had a friend who was a doctor. He had a lot of issues and was talking to this woman who had been raped. So he and she set up a mock rape scene in a hotel room. He came in, they began this game and she lost it. Her reaction was so strong that neither of them were prepared for it. He ran out on her while she sat in a ball on the floor weeping. So her horrible past experience was made worse by a "short cut" When he told me about it after, I ended the friendship right there. Its fine to ask questions like this, but I sure wish people would plug in their ethics and morality as to how they treat others and their responsibility in the dynamics. What we have is a lot of broken people selling others on brokenness. |
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