5 months ago • 10/30/2020 9:09 am
Taramafor(sub male) • 10/30/2020 9:09 am
Quote: Is it ever appropriate for a Dom or Master to use a person’s past hurts to make them more submissive in a relationship?”
The truth can hurt. It also improves. That applies to doms and subs alike. Pointing it out and making the best of those situations you're in, regardless of how unpleasant, is how people learn to enjoy and even crave what may have once caused only pain alone.
As for wherever it's "appropriate", I never cared for that word. WANTING a situation or avoiding it it because you disapprove doesn't change HONESTY. Before answering that question first ask yourself "Does it improve?" Provided you take the right approach the situation/person, yes. It only hurts because you're still afraid of something. A repeat of the past perhaps. I will use that against you. Because if I don't you could hurt me, and yourself too. By addressing it context is considered, good and bad alike. I HURT you but I ALSO heal. And encourage the same in turn. They call it breaking for a reason. What is the goal/purpose of doing as such? Benefiting others just happen to benefit ourselves. But you don't do it by coddling them. They might hate you for it at first. But end up loving you for it in the end.