Im a new Dom, with an more experienced sub.
3 weeks ago • 08/28/2021 3:39 pm
fandan • 08/28/2021 3:39 pm
I had a few queries about the Dom sub dynamic that I would like some experiential advice on please. Ive just copied my intro post here:
I am a recent 'convert' to BDSM & Kink.
I say 'convert', but its always been inside me, I just hadn't realised it yet.
I met someone recently who is a sub, and we have made an amazing connection.
So I have done my research, unravelled the myths and I have to say i'm head over heels with the concept.
I have a induction and training plan outline, I have filled out my Kinks menu, and I am planning a wee presentation of a couple of things which which I will give her to identify of mine.
Ive got a contract planned, and I have even thought of scenes which will encapsulate all of the above.
Id happily take any advice from any experienced Dom's or subs (actually a female sub's view would be really helpful. Fellow Dom' feel free to chime in to
I would also like to seek some advice on how to be a noob dom with a more experienced sub? My instinct is that as part of the training and contract I should 'remove' her previous Dom's from her mind, however is this acceptable and respectful.
Also any tips on increasing the build up of trust is good. I do intend on laying all my kinks out for her to read and understand, and seeking to get her trust via me exposing my desires first, however I get the strong feeling that she has a vulnerability at this stage.
Finally, and this is the one that I am kinda struggling with - how do you remain charming boyfriend material AND sufficiently masterful at the same time? This is further exacerbated by the fact that we havent met yet. Im considering separating the Kink chat from the vanilla chat, and im also considering suggesting that the Dom/sub relationship should be apparent in the Kink Chat.
Am I on the right track?