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dom daddie​(dom male)
2 years ago • Apr 8, 2021

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dom daddie​(dom male) • Apr 8, 2021
why do it by yourself. you can get info on youtube or search for it on the porn site they have educational videos
Miki
2 years ago • Apr 10, 2021
Miki • Apr 10, 2021
Of all these, "self orgasm denial" or edging oneself has to require the greatest self control. Personally I absolutely can't do it. Can't play with myself 10 minutes without going for the orgasm.

It's tougher for some than for others.

But the rest of the suggestions are pretty neat.

For the really daring.. "Icy Hot" on special places can drive you wild. But avoid rubbing your eyes. You won't harm them but they'll be shut for a while.
Miki
2 years ago • Apr 10, 2021
Miki • Apr 10, 2021
... other special places.. But not "too" special.. That stuff is rough!
Mr Fuzzy Bear​(dom male)
2 years ago • Dec 22, 2021
Mr Fuzzy Bear​(dom male) • Dec 22, 2021
Hello,

Since you are learning I would like to provide some sites that helped me along the way as well as additional information about the lifestyle in general.

bdsmrules.org

bdsmcafe.com/resources/bdsm-beginners/glossary-bdsm-words/

badgirlsbible.com/total-power-exchange

evilmonk.org/a/terms.cfm

When vetting someone these are good topics to discuss;

~Limits
~Safe Word
~Aftercare
~Specific Kinks
~Needs
~Expectations
~Role Dynamics
~Communication Guidelines
~Rules & Punishment
~Commands & Responses
~Monogamy, Open or Poly
~Who You Are Outside of BDSM

After reading your profile I can confidently say you should stay away from insta doms! Those are guys who demand you call them Sir, Master, Daddy or any other title without actually taking the time to earn that title. If they dodge or constantly change the topic to avoid talking about them self you should take that as a red flag. If they always talk about sex and ask for nude pictures I would take that as a red flag. Take you time getting to know someone because they can only put on a show for so long before showing their true self.

As far as self experimentation, I will provide a few sites you can purchase toys, objects and gear to help you explore.

extremerestraints.com

lovehoney.com

bondagefetishstore.com

I would suggest purchasing items that you would like to test to see if you are comfortable using. Example; collar, ball gag, butt plug, nipple clamps, spreader bar, restraints and anything else that might tickle your fancy. This way you can test the water without actually being in a situation with a man that might make you feel uncomfortable. I hope that helps!
A Cloud​(sub female){Owned}
2 years ago • Dec 22, 2021
On a budget toys - Wooden pegs, chains of all sizes, butt plugs, leather belts, straps, brushes, feathers

Coconut oil is my favourite lubricant - excellent for your skin and tastes/smells fabulous (if you like coconut).

Happy playing β˜ΊοΈπŸ–€
individsenior​(sub female)
2 years ago • Dec 23, 2021
individsenior​(sub female) • Dec 23, 2021
Anything a partner might use on you, you can use on yourself. You can try different vibrators, suction toys, binding different body parts --- breasts, other body parts, to see how it feels and how much you can take. Learn how your body responds. Learn what turns you on and what does not. I have also found that what turns me on doing it to myself does not always turn me on when a Dominant does it. I sometimes find that the verbal directions and commands of a Dom add additional stimulation. Partners should be open with each other to tell each other what they are feeling.
LiefAmun
1 year ago • Aug 16, 2022
LiefAmun • Aug 16, 2022
Learning about your own breath and controlling it can have amazing effects and bring you to many different levels and new experiences. It can take you out of a state if anxiety or bring you to a heighten state of arousal. It can wipe away a stressful day and bring you peace and tranquility.