Sex and where to get it

CSI • Mar 22, 2021

That would certainly be a needle in a stack of other needles to find. Lol. I am glad it works with more than one.

MisterAshmodai​(dom male) • Mar 22, 2021

Laylamini beat me to the poly punch.

BikerDan​(other male) • Mar 22, 2021

My sex and fetish addiction has always been huge and had caused me to seek additional BDSM/fetish pleasure outside my relationship.
Even then, I had trouble getting completely satisfied.
I have had therapy for my addictions and my husband of 26 years is now disabled and terminally ill.
I wont cheat on him again so I'm getting a sex doll to help satisfy my needs and am currently building my own dedicated play space at home.

Eventually, I plan to take on a TPE slave 24/7/365 in an attempt to properly satisfy my sex, fetish and sadistic needs and desires.

alawey​(sub female){(OWNED BY } • Mar 22, 2021

Here is the deal.. IF u are in a honest and real dynamic IMHO it doesn't matter .

Look I answer a question once post. The question was something along the line to the fact . " do or would you be in / stay in a relationship/ dynamic if kink was of the table which to me is the same thing if SEX was off the table due to any reason whether its illness , age , or whatever. And my answer is always a big YES. Sex isnt everything no matter how high or low limbo is in either person to me. A dynamic is much more than SEX( Or for that matter it's not all about the whips , floggers or anything else)

Nyx Alternis • Mar 22, 2021

Most of my sexual relations have been long term, year or more. That being said, I have not found it hard to find someone to both quench my insatiable appetite and meet whatever other emotional, mental, physical needs I may desire.

If things tend to go in a direction I don't want I attempt to correct course, if we can't come to a mutual agreement then we part ways. Most of my relationships have ended not due to failure of meeting needs but either one or the other having a dream or goal to acquire that diverged from the relationship path. No hard feelings, we just end up going in different directions.

A key philosophy of mine, is have copious amounts of great sex, enjoy the time of the person your with and do the things you enjoy in life. If all three of those aren't happening, I try to see if I can make it happen in the relationship. If not then, I end the relationship and find one where I can.

SubtleHush​(sub female) • Mar 23, 2021

I think people often confuse addictions and fetishes with Ds or Ms. However, if you include all that and are happy then good for you.

Since I desire a full relationship where we are people and have a Ds dynamic etc. I tend to avoid insatiable people. I feel insatiability is about more than what the action is. It is also very hard to keep up with that. And if I couldn't keep up I'd be worried that he'd go find what he was insatiable about elsewhere.

I believe insatiability tends to reduce people down to parts. I prefer a wholistic approach to relating. I'm also very literal. If the profile says insatiable I have no reason to assume anything but a person who enjoys obsession and extremes. It's just not for me.

It goes back to living in balance which is important to me.

However, were I in a good relationship and something changed and he needed that but I couldn't provide it, that is a different conversation and depending on what the issue is, I might try to work with him to find it.

I've met a fair few vanilla spouses who came to events with their kinky wife or husband. For them the marriage was first and though I never asked how, clearly they worked out getting their needs met. I applaud that but I know not everyone can do it.

I've met many more couples who espoused the joys of poly or swinging etc. Only to hear later that they broke up in an ugly way when things didn't go how one of them wanted.

So it really comes back to being true to yourself.

Vanilla to BDSM

Vacquero one​(dom male) • Mar 23, 2021

I am in a LTR with an amazing woman and mother. Over the last six years sex has gone away. I feel she realizes this and I am so close to asking her about an open relationship. She would have the final say.
Trying to introduce her vanilla to BDSM . Im thinking she is a brat sub. We are going to find out .

CSI • Mar 23, 2021

I love this!! I believe I am very similar. I am incredibly literal and if someone says they are insatiable, I actually picture being engaged in sexual activity all day every day. No time for work or eating or anything.

I also love the idea of being in balance. I think most things in moderation is the way to happiness.

Tthomas • Mar 23, 2021

Great question.

I am to Possessive to be Poly or in an open relationship.
The Dynamics I have been in have always been enough for me.

When I hear someone say insatiable I always think they have not been in the right
Relationship with the right person.

As always all things should be worked out and discussed before any agreement.
NOTHING should be sprung on the other person.

Have fun, be safe and be honest.

GingerSpiced​(sub female){MJimT} • Mar 24, 2021

okay Latty lets have that birds and the bees talk ..im assumimg amnesia is the case here so lets start simple ... You see... Wait hold on hmm *puts on my Dr Ruth garb.. The penis gets erect by stimulation visually and physical and os inserted innthe wet... Nvm