Communicating your likes and needs as a submissive
1 month ago • 04/19/2021 4:56 pm
Truppensturm(sub male) • 04/19/2021 4:56 pm
I have a thought about "to submit" that I would like to discuss. English is not my first language so I hope I don't get lost here. Also I am new to the dom/sub world, so still just learning and reading other people's experiences. The blog section on this site has been amazing to read.
So what I wonder is, do you as a sub communicate your likes, wants, needs to your dominant partner?
I find it unusual perhaps that as a submissive you would communicate your likes to a dominant partner. To me that seems contradictory with "to submit". If I translate it to my own language and look for the meaning of "to submit" it means you do what someone else wants you to do.
In my own (very) limited dom/sub experience I get no enjoyment out of submitting to someone if I get what I want. I communicate my boundaries/limits, but other than that I submit to the will of the dominant partner. That loss of control is what excites me. Is it naive to think that way?
I hope this topic is ok to discuss here. Please feel free to correct me if I did something wrong.
Edit: I just realised this may have been discussed before at length. If that is the case, could you post a link to the topic ?