1 month ago • 04/30/2021 4:18 pm
Truppensturm(sub male) • 04/30/2021 4:18 pm
"In the moment itself, I still feel its up to the dominant partner to do with that information what he wishes to do. A safeword is all the more important then."
...................You are totally entitled to your view. And I'm sure when I was new that the idea of being taken and understood at his will was thrilling. However, I encourage you to look at your value and be protective of it. If you wouldn't lend a person your car, your credit card, or let them house sit, dog sit, or babysit, or even meet your parents... then I suggest you park the fantasy and do the upfront work.
Lest you trust them with your mind, body, and heart prematurely. Not everything is mendable.
Sometimes people come to this type of relation with more fantasy than knowledge or skill.
I liken it to the guy at the Lamborghini dealership. Those cars are so pretty, and it would be natural to want to run your hand over it. Or sit in the drivers' seat and grip the wheel. Some might even make "broooom brooooom" noises when they do. In truth, you don't just hop into a high-performance vehicle and hit the gas. That's how people crash (some of them before they even pull out of the lot.)
We have many who "look" good behind the wheel. Your trust in them should wait until you know they know how to drive. That takes more than you handing them your laundry list and letting them decide what to do with it.
"I am happy I made this topic, as I (and hopefully some others) have gotten much valuable information out of it."
...................I am happy too. You never know who you are helping with one simple question.
Thank you for your reply. If there's anything I have learnt about myself the last couple of years is that If i feel comfortable with someone, I give them my trust very quickly. I let my guard down easily and put myself in positions where I can end up hurt. I like to see the good in people and trust them easily, though I like to think I have a pretty good read on most people. It helps a lot to know what you want, so you can filter out everything you don't want.