1 week ago • 05/01/2021 5:19 pm
SubtleHush(sub female) • 05/01/2021 5:19 pm
Cressida Clytie(masochist female)
"Since BDSM is about trust and honesty. Why can't someone just be honest about their feelings even if it's brutal. At least there's closure."
Not everyone is here for this lifestyle in any of its' forms. For some this is a local cheap ticket buffet and they pig out and move on.
They care no more about hurting people than they care about that french fry that fell on the floor at dinner.
Harsh of me? Yes.
We have to slow down on believing everything we're told by strangers online. But sometimes that takes a few hits before the person learns to trust their instincts and say no confidently when it is too quick, easy or feels unrealistic. I've been in a lot of s type support discussions where the approach wasn't even what they wanted.
He is 3 hours away and you are looking for local? "Yes but he said he'd drive here."
He admits to be a work-a-holic and you want someone around often? "Yes but he said he'd work on that."
The problem with the truth is, if you won't tell yourself the truth, you're already set up for the lie and those who live to ghost, have the lies down pat.