1 week ago • 04/30/2021 4:10 am
Miki(masochist female) • 04/30/2021 4:10 am
I'm going to echo a bit of what has already been said, but I will skip the scathing commentary as to your style, and hers.
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Yes, you came across a little fast.. for her.. Some like it hot others not. You probably should have covered how you roll when you spent the first day getting to know one another. That might have saved both of you a touch of grief, in that it is clearly not how she wants the dynamic to work.
There is nothing wrong at all with the sort of dom you want to be. Nothing.
However, the "supply" of available subs might not quickly fill your dance card.
In your post, what you said that you want to do, and that she doesn't.. So unless a whole bunch of "regular" time is invested and a spark beyond just kink comes along, I'd say she's not a sub for you and from what you said she told you, you're not the dom for her.
Cut bait, move on, be patient and although I never recommend it be the first topic out of the chute, when in the "get acquainted" phase, make your preferences clear and encourage the potential sub to share what she wants to do in regards to the dynamic. If she catapults a spoonful of mashed potatoes in your face and storms off, well, that's the max you stand to lose there. (drinks are too damned expensive)
Matching is a tough prospect in any relationship, vanilla, kink, and everything in between.
For example when I was more of a sub and not a "strictly sexual masochist", I liked that demanding style.
But alas, time and tide not only wait for no man or woman, it oft washes them away if they don't underpin their relations properly. I had a crazy work schedule and was ill-disposed to giving up my career and attendant independence.
On that note, (a dose of half ass philosophy) I'll stop, wishing you best of luck and encouraging you to take stock in the strongest of foundations in relationships: Communication.
(Of course it does not solve all issues but without it, one can find oneself up Shit Creek without... a roll of ass paper.)