Bunnie
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2 years ago •
May 3, 2021
2 years ago •
May 3, 2021
Age, like any other factor we look for in a person, matters. The question is, are we flexible enough to not allow it to be a deal breaker if we do happen to meet someone who sits outside of our expectations?
Although Iâve always dated older men, Master is older than I had decided was my comfort zone for age range, because looking at it from a numerical perspective, I couldnât imagine what we could possibly have in common beyond the structure of our dynamic... the glue so to speak. The experience with Him has taught me many valuable things. Surprisingly, things I donât feel I wouldâve learned from someone younger... even the five years less within my original comfort age range. He has opened my eyes to a whole new world. On the other hand, it has brought with it the reality of being with someone who is a lot older. He has health conditions, in many areas we donât share common ground because we are from very different generations (and cultures, Him being American and myself Australian), we donât share similar interests in all areas. Weâre a complete mish-mash. Itâs easy to paint a rosy picture to help âbackâ what we believe is best (âage doesnât matterâ), yet there are always factors to consider... going into any situation ignoring the reality, is simply foolish.
Through continual discussion and absolute transparency (on both our parts), learning to let go and just trust that we do have something of value, has taught me that we can find magic in the most unexpected places. Although that doesnât mean there arenât consequences surrounding this choice, it does mean that Iâm so much more flexible in âwhat I would look forâ now, even though I actually believed I wasnât that rigid.
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