3 months ago • 06/14/2021 6:33 am
Sir'smisty(sub female) • 06/14/2021 6:33 am
i wanted to add, what you do to yourself feels different than what another does to you and how. example: tickling yourself, can’t do it
When I moved from online experimentation, which included self play with pain to playing with a Dom in RL, I remember thinking how different pain feels when you have no real idea what is coming when and how hard/soft.
But I learned valuable things for example: What type of impact play or sensation play I like.
I also learned how my body reacts to pain and how to manage things like my breathing to go through the pain. Also how I feel when I start experiencing sub space. I understood more about safety and what I needed for after care.
While DIY pain play is largely not the same as with someone, it gave me knowledge and agency, which initially made it possible for me to negotiate my experiences and now helps me to advocate for myself.