Betty Tails wrote:
Hello Jesseyfaymes. You are welcome here. You don't have to go somewhere to find people who will include you, though I do encourage a diversity of circles for everyone.
If you find understanding and enjoyable company lacking on this site, then that is exactly why we must implore you to stay so that you may help grow the community in ways we are weak. Despite being a fairly open minded group of people to others needs and kinks, we can be somewhat involved in our own sometimes to the extent that others suffer for it.
So it is YOUR opinion that just because no one wishes to have this type of person with this type of dynamic that this person wants to call themself . We are all weak because we as people either dont understand or are NOT interested in the THEY/THEM Non Binary type of person ? Its our choice, but it doesnt make any of us or this Lifestyle WEAK....
I am a little confused on what your point is and the interpretation of the post you are responding to. Can you please explain in greater depth?
BTW - I see you are new to the site. Welcome.
My point is.....If any of us of this site or anywhere else is not in tune with the "They/Them" non Binary person. Does not in anyway make us a WEAK society, it just means we dont either care for that dynamic, or just not interested in THEIR way of thinking. And dont have to go around waving THAT flag, "Just Because its there". And certainly does not make us WEAK....
Thank you for answering - I wanted to clarify. Your expression is hard to understand and I am still unclear but get the gist. What's with the capitalisation? It does not emphasise or convince people to agree with you. As an educator, I believe a far superior way of influencing is to have an excellent command of grammar and vocabulary. Good stories, humour and respect work well too.
I am not sure why you dug this thread up; it seems you are taking issue with something you fear. I am shocked that you would join this site and straight up shame and dehumanise people who are just trying to feel safe and be who they are without xenophobic backlash. The site doesn't need that kind of shit stirring.
I don't consider myself to be in the lifestyle and I have been engaged in kink for one and a half years. Does your 40 years make you an expert? Make you part of the BDSM elite who despise the inclusion of muggles? Change is constant - get used to it!
I realise I am partaking in gatekeeping but there was so much about your posting to this thread that was/is wrong. I do hope you change the way you approach this site and discussions to show more respect.
I have said my piece and really don't want to engage in verbal ping pong. Misogynistic attitudes won't last the distance - communities and individuals are turning their back on those outdated systems and the people they serve. But I think you already feel this change, hence the tyrade.