8 months ago • Nov 23, 2021
LifeChanger(dom male) • Nov 23, 2021
I think it's for the same reason there are so many "alpha doms", "true doms", "call me sir"s around right now. The rise of BDSM in mainstream media has flooded the area with the kink curious. There's a wealth of information for individuals to scan through to see if there is one or more aspect of the lifestyle that appeals to them, however it's harder to find accurate representations and educational resources through a quick google search.
As you represent yourself to be experienced and a veteran to the lifestyle I don't know why you would take issue with these terms publicly instead of discussing your understanding and meaning of these terms with potential partners and maybe gently educating those who might not actually fit the traditional definition of said terms about what they mean in the community vs an internet search. This seems like an example of "call out culture" here where instead of addressing individual situations an entire group has been put forward as possibly misrepresenting themselves, and that makes me kinda sad.
I feel that the individuals who are referring to themselves as anything to do with dominants especially alpha, true, and daddy (without training or proper education) pose a much greater risk to the safety of individuals as well as the integrity of the lifestyle, and should be more the focus of experienced doms trying to keep the community an enjoyable place for everyone.
I think you make a very good point in your first paragraph.
Regarding the second paragraph I respectfully disagree. Why would I start individual discussions/lectures with individuals that quite clearly immediately disqualify themselves?
Blatant example: A fresh account on the day of account opening introduces herself as a trophy sub who wants to relocate to me but only if I can prove I am a "unicorn Dom" (lol). While that is an extreme example (and potential scam attempt) there simply has been way too many alpha sub/trophy sub ads/contacts to address individually.
Third paragraph is not really addressing my post but nonetheless a very valid and important concern, no doubt.