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2 years ago • Jan 17, 2022

What to do other than beg for attention

CSI • Jan 17, 2022
So I am sure we all have those days where you are feeling like no one is paying attention to you and you would reeeeaaallly like some. I am usually quite content in my own little world, but am having a moment. So rather than posting thirst trap pictures, nudes, or toy with someone's emotions, what are ways you actually deal with these feelings?
Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker}
2 years ago • Jan 17, 2022

Re: What to do other than beg for attention

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} • Jan 17, 2022
CSI wrote:
So I am sure we all have those days where you are feeling like no one is paying attention to you and you would reeeeaaallly like some. I am usually quite content in my own little world, but am having a moment. So rather than posting thirst trap pictures, nudes, or toy with someone's emotions, what are ways you actually deal with these feelings?
Dear gawds. I see this every day when some women (and men) use their blogs to fish for attention. Always portraying themselves as distressed victims. There's more than a few "subs" who resort to this daily to get their never ending pats on the head from total strangers (male and female both). I even see so called "dominants" flying their needy flag regularly. Please don't think that's all you're worth. The pats on the head and empty ministrations from total strangers who only smell desperation and are moving in to fill your void won't lead to any true happiness and will ultimately leave you even higher and drier than you might feel now.
Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker}
2 years ago • Jan 17, 2022

Re: What to do other than beg for attention

Spellbound Wytch{Mr. Parker} • Jan 17, 2022
CSI wrote:
So I am sure we all have those days where you are feeling like no one is paying attention to you and you would reeeeaaallly like some. I am usually quite content in my own little world, but am having a moment. So rather than posting thirst trap pictures, nudes, or toy with someone's emotions, what are ways you actually deal with these feelings?


And to add to my previous reply to you:
Think true and sincere QUALITY vs mindless quantity. There's really little worse than duplicity. Both sides of the slash are frequently guilty of duplicitous assholery when their only concern is immediate gratification and the stroking of their egos.
Morley​(sub female){Max Sterne}
2 years ago • Jan 18, 2022
For me, I do something for myself that I would love another to do. Like, I get my favourite playlist, a glass of wine and run a nice hot bubble bath. I soak, drink in the music (and wine) and unwind. I give myself the attention that I seldom do, the attention I seek from another, because it's soooooo nice when someone does something for you. I have found through this Lockdown that I never did enough for myself. Now I am trying to do way more.

Not sure if that helps, but it does for me in the moment of those needy feelings when I can't turn to another.

*runs virtual bath, hands you a glass a wine (or beverage of your choice) and turns in your music*
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TwoRingsOneChain
2 years ago • Jan 18, 2022
TwoRingsOneChain • Jan 18, 2022
I can honestly say that I've never really been bored I mean quite honestly I just get busy with something else. I mean in my own life right now I'm busy as heck with work and everything.

when I was with my old master I mean if nothing was going on and he was busy with something else, I never would go up to him and bug him, because he was a busy guy to . I just made myself available for him I might be baking cookies or something but I just be available for him when he wanted me.

Just have to find a way to keep busy, try making cookies
I'mME
2 years ago • Jan 18, 2022
I'mME • Jan 18, 2022
I watch porn on a regular basis, then try to reach an orgasm.
I'mME
2 years ago • Jan 18, 2022
I'mME • Jan 18, 2022
I watch porn on a regular basis, then try to reach an orgasm.
Miki
2 years ago • Jan 18, 2022
Miki • Jan 18, 2022
I have not had to deal with this kind of thing since I was a teen or even younger. These days there is always something I can do, somewhere i can go to occupy my mind so as to not want attention.


Actually I often find myself trying to deflect attention because most "attention" is not very productive. 'm a low-profile sort who prefers to melt into a crowd rather than stand out in one.
SuperEight​(sub female)
2 years ago • Jan 18, 2022
SuperEight​(sub female) • Jan 18, 2022
Honestly, I'll just reach out to someone that I love and trust enough and ask if they'll provide that space for me. It felt weird and selfish at first, asking for attention from someone, but it's also a natural human need. I make sure that they're in a right frame of mind and simply ask for some of their time and attention. Always make sure to reciprocate though.
If you're wanting a very specific kind of attention, might I suggest providing that for yourself if others aren't able to. Take yourself out on a date, make yourself feel special and beautiful, have your own fun if that's what you want. You have to be with yourself for your whole life, treat yourself the way you need to to be fulfilled.