7 months ago • Oct 15, 2022
I'mME • Oct 15, 2022
Ghosting is a product of the digital age. When one person simply stops responding, without the courtesy of an explanation as to why, or without a request to not be contacted again. Ghosting can happen because we rely on instant technology to communicate, and the same tech provides means and methods to ghost. Blocking, deleting, changing profiles, etc., and including just not responding. These are all methods to ghost someone.
The length of time that you have been communicating, whether it's one message or 20 years together (yes, it happens), doesn't matter.
Just because it's easy doesn't mean it's right. And it speaks to one's character.
Although it does speak to ones character , that can be a difficult to keep in mind when one engages with someone who says the right things, who seems to care and have your best interest in mind.
I'm referring to long time situations. Let's face it, there is a school of thought with Doms (m & f) that involves conditioning and it can begin almost from the beginning .
I am not saying that every person who calls themselves a Dom engages in it this process but it is a fact that this occurs.
Thr processes used with conditioning is designed to have a sub panting for their Dom in a short amount of time. A selfish person who uses these processes screws with peoples emotions, keeping them off kilter.
So when they do show their true colors by ghosting, or by telling w sub that they are done, letting them go, it becomes a matter of processing what happened, while still trying to keep in mind that it's the other person with the character issue not you.
Some people do not even go take any time to process but get back right into another dynamic or -ship.
Then the hamster wheel process begins.
I went too much over towards another topic but what I wrote does go to one of the reasons it sucks for people who have been dropped like trash at the dump.