Byrdie(switch female){rl only}
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4 years ago •
Dec 22, 2019
4 years ago •
Dec 22, 2019
Well, between classes, play parties, and other events at Center for Sex Positive Culture ( thecspc.org ), local munches ( findamunch.com), and maybe even looking into FLR / female lead relationships ( shemakestherules.com) you have a lot of options for learning how to find a partner, especially depending on how close you live to Seattle.
As to limits, that's an odd one to try to figure out if you don't know. First I'd suggest checking other people's profiles and seeing what they list: do any of those suggestions gross you out (limit) or excite you (kink)? Common ones I see include:
* no bodily waste (brown, golden, and rainbow showers are actually kinks)
* no minors (it worries me that people feel the need to make this clear, because it should be assumed)
* no pets / animals (see above)
* nothing illegal (which is odd phrasing, considering that kink in general rides a very fine line into illegality)
* no extreme pain (which needs defining, because everyone's edge is different)
* no extreme humiliation (see above)
* no financial domination (I've yet to meet anyone who was actually into this in either direction)
* no professional domination (I guess some people solicit?)
* no tickling (usually tied to early life trauma)
Almost anything can be kinkified depending on the person, so basically consider anything that you have a serious dislike of and put it in your limits. Seriously, even if it's weird. Because if you don't list it as a limit but simply mention later on that you dislike it, someone *will* likely use it in a scene with you - either as punishment or just for amusement value. I've seen people tortured with Barney plushes, the sound of a chainsaw (no blade), and plastic spiders. I know someone who was subjected to "It's a Small World" on loop during an interrogation scene.
Are you allergic to anything? For crying out loud, add whatever your allergy triggers are to your limits list!
Seriously: unless you've got a serious kink for being able to endure your most hated experiences, just think about what would be a serious mood killer for you and jot it down as you recognize it.
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