cyberkaiju(switch trans woman)
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4 years ago •
Jul 21, 2019
4 years ago •
Jul 21, 2019
So a fetish is not the same thing as a kink, and a kink is not the same thing as a fetish. A fetish is something that either isn’t inherently sexual but makes you aroused, or something you can’t get aroused without, or have difficulty without.this is as opposed to a kink, which is just something you enjoy, usually in a sexual manner, but isn’t required for you to want sex. So if you like to be walked on a leash, that’s a kink. If you can’t/won’t have sex unless your on a leash, that’s a fetish. If seeing a leash hanging on the shelf at the pet store makes you feel like you have to have sex right now... that’s also a fetish.
So as far as actually a fetish, the big one for me is helplessness. I’m asexual, I don’t experience sexual attraction, and In order to get “in the mood” to have sex I literally require some form of feeling helpless. That can be and usually is bondage, but it could be just being manhandled, or even psychological... as long as I feel like someone I am intimate with has some sort of power over me and I “can’t” stop them. I also tend to identify gags and straightjackets as fetishes but really they both are just sub sections of helplessness.
Now if you want to talk about kinks rather than fetishes, well there are more than I am willing to list, but major ones include bondage, D/s, and orgasm control/denial
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