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3 months ago • 06/16/2021 8:01 am

Non-sexual traits or things that turn you off

Moonstruck • 06/16/2021 8:01 am
xgabbyx posted the forum topic "What are some non-sexual traits or things that turn you guys on," and it's still going strong. So, for the flip side, what are some things that you DON'T like, that will turn your "yes" into a "NO!" or bring an interaction to a screeching halt?

A closed mind
Arrogance (see above)
Boo78​(sub female)
3 months ago • 06/16/2021 12:30 pm
Boo78​(sub female) • 06/16/2021 12:30 pm
Definitely a closed mind
People who pretend to be something they clearly are not!
3 months ago • 06/16/2021 12:56 pm
SageFlame • 06/16/2021 12:56 pm
Emotional immaturity
Insecurity that is fed by manipulating others
Fault finding attitude
Competitive like there is something to prove

Basically, a boy in a man suit.
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Steellover​(sub male)
3 months ago • 06/17/2021 4:09 am
Steellover​(sub male) • 06/17/2021 4:09 am
Here are a few: My number one is hard drug use- this is a deal breaker for me. I'm not really a particular fan of tobacco smokers, but it's typically not a deal breaker for me; neither is, uh, smokers of things other than tobacco (which I don't consider hard drugs.).

Some personality traits I dont mesh well wih are things like extreme narcissism- I want my superior to love Herself and be strong and confident in who She is, obviously, but there is an upper limit there where it becomes just too much. I learned this from experience after a relationship soured because of this.

Another one is, selfishness; not so much in a sexual way or even in a personal relationship way. (I AM a submissive after all. But more as in, holding a world view that involves callous disregard for the well-being and greater good of other people. Basically, being an opinionated, selfish entitled jerk; not so much to me but to the rest of the world.

I'm not so much a fan of blatant greed or "gold digging" in a relationship either. Where it's all about "Buy me this, buy me that, spend money on me, spoil me." Again, from experience: Been there, tried that, didn't work for me.

Compulsive cell phone use, when you are trying to spend quality time with someone or have a conversation over a meal; it's annoying.

But other than that- I dunno, I try to be pretty easy and laid back about things.
MelMell​(dom female)
3 months ago • 06/17/2021 8:51 am
MelMell​(dom female) • 06/17/2021 8:51 am
Bad grammar
Heavy drinkers
aphroditeareia​(sub female)
3 months ago • 06/17/2021 5:28 pm
aphroditeareia​(sub female) • 06/17/2021 5:28 pm
Not wanting to grab life with both hands
Absence of desire to achieve
Gracelessness in manners
Self-absorption/ lack of self-awareness
Lack of playfulness

In short, traits that are anti-seductive
RyuuzakiSama1​(dom male)
3 months ago • 06/18/2021 1:13 am

That is a good question.

RyuuzakiSama1​(dom male) • 06/18/2021 1:13 am
I have to say...what turns me off and will cause me to end things with that person swiftly are...

: An aggressive tone and a defiant eye.
: Lying and deception.
: Lack of accountability and self-awareness
: Inability to listen and follow directions.
: Blatant selfishness.
: Delusional or unrealistic expectations.
: Using anything one already agreed to from the beginning as a weapon to manipulate a situation or person to get their way.
:Narcissism or Solipsism