Getting responses to messages

KrysRaWriter​(sub female) • Nov 4, 2024

I tend to be very wary of messages. Between here and Fet, it's a guessing game of if they want friendship or something more. I do read the messages but if I'm not interested in what I see on their bio, I primarily don't respond.

Softnote​(masochist female) • Nov 9, 2024

Just saying more to say then few words mind of creative make it interesting not copy and paste or becomes a bore. You can share quotes but make sure you write you own as well when people write when they make space for them self get away from the crowd go in nature a place makes you feel peace.

But I know for fact a that out of polite manners the person will take the time to read can carry a conversation and can surprise you but with feeling and dignity it's attractive. They can't read a profile their no attraction end of appetite they will move on to someone that takes the time to get to know someone. Just like if you want service at restaurant you need to read the menu you tell the waiter what you want it's a give and take. Don't waste people's time because you are just wasting your own. You have to grow a bone, make a choice, you have to grow. It's a responsibility for yourself to tune in if you want better results. Work on it, don't repent, have some written AI stuff or you seen somewhere. Be creative.

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shortylotus​(sub female) • Dec 10, 2024

I usually ask them if they want to wrestle. Second question...how do you feel about pudding?

Random Male​(dom male) • Dec 10, 2024

Odds are, I'll never initiate contact. If they're interested, they'll reach out.

TopekaDom​(dom male) • Dec 10, 2024

Take a course on Business communication. That is the best way to learn how to communicate correctly in a written form.

Seeks FLR​(sub male) • May 21, 2025

I agree. I live by the credo “You only get one chance to make a first impression.” Which is why I never introduce myself on a dance floor… I prefer polite conversation to start and if things go well…bith discuss other topics.

CoCoKate​(sub female) • May 25, 2025

I'm actually bad at replying back. If I don't lose track of time offline or simply forget to respond, the only thing that actually prevents or changes that are the messages that make an impact on me or have a catchy title/header so when I'm cleaning out what piled up, the header catches my attention and saves it from the trash can.

Bellexoxo​(sub female) • May 25, 2025

In my very short experience here I would say that the messages that get responses are ones that do not read like a resume. A lot of times in the over 50 so far it's a lot of guys just talking about themselves. It's a lot of

"I'm looking for this.."
"I'm a strict but caring Dom"
"I want a submissive who will"
"I will mold you into my perfect..."

Then it's just a line about "so are you interested?"

And it's like well no because I don't know who you are lol I know this isn't in person but I just feel like if you were to approach somebody like that in real life it wouldn't go very well. Plus the reality is a lot of responses don't happen because I for one am not on this platform all day. And once you get a couple of off-putting messages you kind of don't really want to come back and check.

It's odd to me to ask for a commitment from a stranger. You want to train me but know nothing about me. The idea that you'll learn that during the training process just feels fake. I get the feeling that some of the men here don't really view the submissives as people all the way. More like means to an end or they just have very poor social skills and they think telling us they are "6'2 and can fulfill our dark fantasies" is the key to our heart lol

Chemistry rules

MasterDomDok​(sadist male)​{you?} • May 25, 2025

Pudding makes a terrific slime for wrestling! bring it on!

Trancebunny • May 26, 2025

I think it's very important for Dom's to note that even though us subs are here, we have made a profile and we regulary appear online, we simply wish to belong, not necessarily participate.
Taking the leap from having a fantasy, to living that fantasy even to a very small scale, is incredibly scary and I'll be honest, most of us might never act on it at all!
Even if your message is respectful and lovely, please don't be disheartened if you don't get a reply and don't jump to the conclusion that we're obviously fake or a lier.

The same goes for ghosting (opening a can of worms here) sometimes the sheer fright or sudden realisation of reality stops you dead in your tracks and as a sub, things can get very overwhelming very quickly. Panic sets in and all of a sudden you haven't responded in a week and the loop of panic begins all over again.

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