Solace(dom male) |
3 weeks ago •
Nov 20, 2024
3 weeks ago •
Nov 20, 2024
Solace(dom male) • Nov 20, 2024
B L O N D I E wrote: It always amazes me how many men on here say they want long term relationships with someone they love, trust, and connect with. The younger ones are looking for people they can start families with. This is a kink site. Outsiders might expect us to be all about jumping into bed with whoever, but when it really comes down to it, our truest desires are to feel connected, to feel loved, and to have long-lasting relationships that feed our souls. This site has taught me that more than anything. Men are just as interested in security and long-term family connection-building as women.
I think a lot of what you mentioned about "women want money and men want beauty" is a function of immaturity. Both sides drop this as they get older and realize what is really important. They drop what they think society wants them to want and realize that the true wealth is in the heart connection and building something that is going to last, not all that superficial stuff. I think this is good insight B L O N D I E ( Your cage name is wonderful but truly slows me down in typing) I agree with some of what your saying here. A lot of men really care about legacy, about being appreciated for what they do. Long term relationships, families and careers are all paths a great deal of men see as validation of this point. However, you cut at a good men who might offer real perspective. Lets say the whole world was hooked up to this forum. How many men would have to tell you that they feel a significant portion of ladies valued them for money, before it was real insight an not a mark of immaturity? This is a learned experience many men have. And when its voiced, men are often ridiculed. An equivalent statement is ladies saying a great deal of men just want sex. Ladies feel used for the bodies and men for their wallet. The entire dating scene is arranged to use men as pay pigs. As I've outlined previously, men are expected to have cars for rides, money for nice dinners, their own places to host. Men pay to get into bars and clubs, they buy drinks for the ladies. Dating websites charge men and not women, if you look at the number of premium members here its a landslide men. The list goes on. Lets say for a fraction of a second, that all ladies values men for their money. Just a fraction of a second. I'm not saying that's bad. And I'm not saying its bad if we say for a fraction of a second that all men just want sex from pretty girls. What I am saying is, what do ladies want. What do men want. We have a real chance to learn something here if we lay our cards down on the table in pleasant fashion. |
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