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CableFlame
Newport News, Virginia, United States
CableFlame
Gender
Gender fluid
Voice
Age
41
Relationship status
In a polyamorous relationship
About me
*Queer Enby/Nonbinary Pervert. Switch who leans sub, fetishist. Not a masochist. Mind play (esp. roleplay) & bondage, power, chest compression. Knives are good for threatening. VERY into fat and feedism. Feminist. Geek. Looking for friends in my area & my future spouse/Dominant for something that's between "only in the bedroom" and "24/7".
I have skills in needles and fire (and used to give a lot of needles), but it's been a VERY long time since I've given those things (esp. needles) and would probably want to take a refresher course first.
I find flogging to be insanely boring &, for the most part, do NOT understand the appeal. If flogging is your big thing, we are mismatched. (Also, if pain play is your big thing, we are also mismatched.)
I was an active member of the Scene in the Washington DC area and Toronto for about 10 years. I've pretty much fallen out of the Scene for the past 5 years or so, but would love to get back into it again (somewhat) with a partner ("after" COVID, of course.) I'd love to go back to a GrUE, despite not really being into rope. (I'm really into that unconference format. MAGIC happens there!)
I'm 5'1", 350+ lbs. If that's not your cup of tea, that's fine, but you should be aware of this ahead of time. I also have multiple disabilities, some of which are serious & alter my whole life. When it comes to men (for dating/partnering), I'm only into fat dudes. (And I don't mean a few extra pounds, I mean FAT dudes.) Also, no military or previous military, plz. (It's an ethical/religious conviction.)
*I'm the kind of queer that's into most genders, and yes, that actually includes cismen. But no, I'm not a Domme, and I don't enjoy dominating men.
(RE: my dating status. I've been with someone for 7 years, but we both agree that he's not suited to be my "forever partner". I'm looking for my future spouse/Dominant (preferably husband); what kind of relationship I'll have (if any) with my current someone is TBD. He's aware I'm on various sites, looking.)
I have skills in needles and fire (and used to give a lot of needles), but it's been a VERY long time since I've given those things (esp. needles) and would probably want to take a refresher course first.
I find flogging to be insanely boring &, for the most part, do NOT understand the appeal. If flogging is your big thing, we are mismatched. (Also, if pain play is your big thing, we are also mismatched.)
I was an active member of the Scene in the Washington DC area and Toronto for about 10 years. I've pretty much fallen out of the Scene for the past 5 years or so, but would love to get back into it again (somewhat) with a partner ("after" COVID, of course.) I'd love to go back to a GrUE, despite not really being into rope. (I'm really into that unconference format. MAGIC happens there!)
I'm 5'1", 350+ lbs. If that's not your cup of tea, that's fine, but you should be aware of this ahead of time. I also have multiple disabilities, some of which are serious & alter my whole life. When it comes to men (for dating/partnering), I'm only into fat dudes. (And I don't mean a few extra pounds, I mean FAT dudes.) Also, no military or previous military, plz. (It's an ethical/religious conviction.)
*I'm the kind of queer that's into most genders, and yes, that actually includes cismen. But no, I'm not a Domme, and I don't enjoy dominating men.
(RE: my dating status. I've been with someone for 7 years, but we both agree that he's not suited to be my "forever partner". I'm looking for my future spouse/Dominant (preferably husband); what kind of relationship I'll have (if any) with my current someone is TBD. He's aware I'm on various sites, looking.)
BDSM and me
For scenes: Play with my mind or the body will not follow. Reject this reality, substitute your own. Let's be someone else, let's be somewhere else, let's explore fantasy & our minds. Create worlds for me, with me, worlds where fear & pleasure are mixed.
For semi-lifestyle: Let me be the Sidekick to your Superhero. Let me put my strength & intellect in service to you. Test me occasionally, but never intentionally set me up to fail. Lead me & us into our best lives, into a better future. Tell me I'm a good girl.
For rest and relaxation: Take care of me, let me rest in you and find my peace & comfort there. Nurture me, tell me I'm good.
For semi-lifestyle: Let me be the Sidekick to your Superhero. Let me put my strength & intellect in service to you. Test me occasionally, but never intentionally set me up to fail. Lead me & us into our best lives, into a better future. Tell me I'm a good girl.
For rest and relaxation: Take care of me, let me rest in you and find my peace & comfort there. Nurture me, tell me I'm good.
Limits
Receiving:
* Spankings (ANY ass impact... I have trauma issues from childhood surrounding it)
* anything stronger than embarrassment(/mild humiliation) (That is, things that actually humiliate me. There are things that others would find humiliating that are actually hot to me.)
* orgasm/arousal control
* mental health RP/psych ward scenes/straight jackets (even the mere sight of them can freak me out)
* electrical play
* stun guns (even being around the SOUND of them freaks me out)
* in erotic hypnosis, having triggers implanted that last beyond the scene
* cutting my hair w/o having explicitly negotiated it (you wouldn't think I'd have to put this here, but, yes, it actually happened to me 1 time)
* not respecting or being willing to deal with/accommodate my body's and mind's needs due to multiple disabilities
Giving Limits:
Using me & treating me as just a pair of hands giving a service (while you connect with your others: your dominant, your service subs, whoever.) If I'm playing with you, this is about us, not others. (Withdraw into yourself if you need to, that's fine, but if you're interacting with others, you need to be interacting with me, and more than with others during our scene.)
General:
Soft limits: anime (watching), cunnilingus (everything to do with it), cupping (receiving).
Hard limits: military (everything to do with it)
* Spankings (ANY ass impact... I have trauma issues from childhood surrounding it)
* anything stronger than embarrassment(/mild humiliation) (That is, things that actually humiliate me. There are things that others would find humiliating that are actually hot to me.)
* orgasm/arousal control
* mental health RP/psych ward scenes/straight jackets (even the mere sight of them can freak me out)
* electrical play
* stun guns (even being around the SOUND of them freaks me out)
* in erotic hypnosis, having triggers implanted that last beyond the scene
* cutting my hair w/o having explicitly negotiated it (you wouldn't think I'd have to put this here, but, yes, it actually happened to me 1 time)
* not respecting or being willing to deal with/accommodate my body's and mind's needs due to multiple disabilities
Giving Limits:
Using me & treating me as just a pair of hands giving a service (while you connect with your others: your dominant, your service subs, whoever.) If I'm playing with you, this is about us, not others. (Withdraw into yourself if you need to, that's fine, but if you're interacting with others, you need to be interacting with me, and more than with others during our scene.)
General:
Soft limits: anime (watching), cunnilingus (everything to do with it), cupping (receiving).
Hard limits: military (everything to do with it)
Update date
Oct 15, 2021
Member since
Jun 19, 2021