I am Confident, Dominant, Sadistic, and Heterosexual Male, I identify as a Master in the Leather M/s Lifestyle. I am a friendly and accommodating fellow, ready to offer help with just about anything, if asked politely.
I attempt to have minimal compartmentalization in my life. I do not hide my alternative Spirituality or alternative Lifestyle from my friends, if they are going to accept me, they get all of me. I do not flaunt my alternative-ness, but I do not shun away from talking about it. Sadly the exceptions to this are my extended family and my work; both are overly conservative and so they only get to see limited parts of my life.
I enjoy serving as an informal Ambassador to the kinky world. As such I am always happy to talk to new people about what it is they are looking for and introduce them to others of like mind. As I am very open with all my friends, this allows my vanilla friends to see that there are normal people they can talk to about the kinky desires running through their heads, and a doorway to get involved. I will occasionally serve as a mentor to individuals that want to learn about my philosophy or skill that I can teach, but they have to be willing to put in the effort to make it work both of our time.
For large portions of my past my natural inclination to “Take” was repressed. It was locked in a cage labeled “Socially Unacceptable”, pacing back and forth in my head. My marriage was part of that cage and I have learned may lessons during it and in ending it. I have broken out of that cage and now find myself happily roaming the wilds, balanced between my Duty, Courtesy, and Responsibility to others, and the Confidence to go after what I want.
I am a stable person, doing well in my profession. My life has minimal unnecessary drama, and I work to keep it that way. If you know the difference between drama and excitement, then you understand. I think I have a wonderful sense of humor, but then who doesn’t? I can be quite serious at times, yet not so stuck on myself that I can’t laugh at my own follies. I strive to never tell an untruth, no matter how small. As such, I attempt to be painstakingly accurate in my words; I mean exactly what I say, Exactly (except when my words fail me). Yet I can be misunderstood because people naturally make assumptions and derive additional meanings that are not intended. I am introspective, often analyzing why I do what I do and feel. It is important to me to know the whys of my actions and create goals and objectives of where I want to be, and to define my philosophies.
I enjoy defying the stereotypes people would box me in to. I am a Computer Programmer, a Sadist, a Pagan, a Student of Martial Arts, a Biker, a Burner, a Hetero, a Genius, a Master, a Caretaker, a Father, a Lover; I am all of these, yet no one thing or combination of them define me. I have resumed the journey of self discovery, finding additional interests and passions.
Multiple Communities such as the Burners, the M/s Lifestyle, the Pagan are all places I feel at home. I am finding new and old friends and playmates, and lasting relationships are growing out of that. I want people in my life that are more than the sum of their kinks, but not afraid of their desires.
Interesting and intelligent people are welcome in my world regardless of their gender, orientation, race or shoe size. I value strength in its many forms; strength of mind, strength of will, of character, of spirit, and of body. In fact, I base my respect for a person on how their strengths overcome their weaknesses. I despise arrogance and respect confidence. Strong, honest relationships are important to me. Dishonesty is intolerable.
I don’t expect or want anyone to throw themselves on the ground because I have the money to buy a flogger and a leather vest and call myself “Master Whatever”; it takes more than that to be a Dominant and a Master. I enjoy and relish a submissive's strength that is required when they seek to entrust themselves to their partner, the exploration of a person's boundaries of arousal, pleasure and pain. I very much enjoy spanking a girl that knows she wants and needs it. I am a loving sadist; I enjoy giving pain that is pleasure, Bondage and Domination. I am always learning more and more about various kinds of play that interest me.
And I can be long winded.
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My credo
I do not profess to have perfected this, but it is the life I strive to live. It is updated as I grow in my self-awareness.
With Honor and Confidence, I will exercise Decisiveness with Responsibility and Self Control over myself and those who have been place in my hands by circumstance or by their own choice.
I enjoy the Vitality from asserting my Will over those whose submission is given to me, and from inflicting intense sensations of pleasure and pain.
I believe a person should strive to embody certain virtues, and these are the one I choose for myself:
Honor: One’s Words and Deeds must be in alignment. One should never make a Vow or Promise that one would not bleed to keep.
Honesty: Know the person within one’s self, and be that person on the outside as well. If one chooses to speak, speak only truth regardless of circumstance. Say as much or as little as one feels is right. Do not aim to mislead, but do not take responsibility for others' assumptions.
Confidence: Strong understanding of one’s Self, Skills, and Value flows in to a subtle aura of presence. Arrogance is unbecoming, self-aggrandizing, and boorish. False humility is attention seeking and tiresome. Dignified confidence is softly spoken, effective in action, and acknowledges praise simply.
Decisiveness: The ability to make decisions and act upon them without constant second guessing. This requires the Forethought to gather facts and opinions when necessary, and the Discernment to know what is necessary, and to skip that which is not. To take action in the moment, not letting the moment pass by.
Responsibility: Taking ownership of one's decisions, actions, and inaction. Taking ownership of the consequences that flow from those actions, both good and bad. Acting on the consequences, not bemoaning them.
Vitality: The fullness of spirit that comes from the enjoyment of a life lead with Courage and Purpose.
Self Control: One’s actions must be the result of conscious decisions, not purely childish impulses. Those impulses may be indulged; yet one must control them, not be controlled by them.
Will: Knowing what one wants and actively going after those desires. Strength of character that does not give up when faced with obstacles in the pursuit of one's goals.