NewYorkDominant
dom male

New York, United States
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New York Master and Sadist seeks submissive or slave masochist
Me just your average guy next door type with a great occupation, circle of friends and happy in my life. Anything I want I work for as nothing is ever handed to us.............very tall standing 64 with a strong build at 260lbs, brown hair and eyes sometimes sporting a goa-tee with a wide variety of interests in and out of the lifestyle content and looking for someone to share that dynamic with both in and out of a bd ds sm content. If you are just looking for a bd ds sm dynamic that is fine too...lets discuss it and see where we land. Sorry no photo simply due to occupational reasons. I have one of those jobs where all social media is checked, finances, credit status etc Although into the bd ds sm content, I am very extreme. I define myself as a Master and Sadist. I am not a daddy or a dominant please know the difference. I have been active in the bd ds sm lifestyle for over 2 decades and have become very experienced and enjoy pushing the mind and body. I am a very physical and intense individual looking for an equally intense submissive / slave who wants to have her mind and body pushed. You will go far beyond simple bondage and spanking, I will push your limits but never cross the line of pre-defined limits. As for limits I share the normal limits of most sane and respectful but enjoy bondage, tight bondage, suspension, gags, sensory deprivation, orgasm control, fisting, breath play, lead and leash, fire play, electric play, needle play, use of tens unit, cage play, impact play, whips, canes, crops, paddles, hair pulling and the list is really endless outside of the hard limits which will be discussed and established.... how are are you willing to go??? When I am using the flogger or cane and you feel you are about to collapse are you the kind to tap our or beg me to continue and not stop till I am satisfied and happy....when you are put into a group - gang bang and feel your body is going to explode from being used by countless friends and dont have another breath in you are you going to tap out or tell me you want more.....when you are denied orgasm after orgasm are you going to tap out because your body can not take the tease anymore or beg me to use you to complete exhaustion....I can go on and on but you get the idea You need to submit physically and Mentally - Yes you, that is why you are reading this. You want to feel helpless... dominated... NOT in control. you want to give yourself fully, without thought of saying no. You are a very sexy, confident, open minded and willing and meet my criteria and if you do not please dont contact me (when being trained / scening will be in thigh highs or garters, shaved smooth and 5 to 6in closed toe stilettos, NOT NEGOTIABLE) but feel constrained by your routine, your family life and fear of judgment. You are frustrated by your inability to realize your innermost sexual fantasies. Of course you want to be spanked, restrained and many other things, and want to be ordered around, told how to please and be controlled, you know in your heart you are - And you are getting aroused just thinking about this now. I look forward to speaking to those who are true and sincere in exploring the mental and physical aspects of this dynamic. both in and out of a bd ds sm setting Please read my posting careful. 1 - i am not for the faint of heart 2- read and understand what I am into and want, I will expect you to be into the same, if you are not or not willing to explore all I have listed we will not be a good match Thank you for reading and look forward to hearing from you. Also make note I split my time between Long island Ny and Upstate Ny so you should be willing to travel or open to relocation
Age
48
Relationship status
Single
About me
Taking a break for a while. Wish everyone well in their search


Well its official, on 8/10/2020 I have reached the 350 mark. That is 350 conversations that lead no where, Even past failed attempts who have the nerve to apologize, ask for another chance pull the same shit (your all pathetic) its simply amazing how so many people are full of crap, sadly convincing or I am just a dumbass and to trusting to think that at least one person is sincere and honest, but nope shame on me

Maybe I should create a blog and post all the fake users in my journey to save other real, lifestylers from wasting time

Guess those 350 people are just fake, phony, pathetic people who have nothing better to do that waste peoples time, regardless of the person on the other side of the screen. There are hundreds of people on this site who do not want real time and make it clear they want online reach out to them and those of us looking for something real and tangible dont waste our time


First off, all you fake and phonies stay the F** away from me. Do not waste my time. I have been doing this 20plus years and can spot the BS a mile away after a few conversation, my time and search is real, go play games with someone else 

Second, real time only. I have no interest in online relationships or endless conversations or question and answer sessions that have no tangiable real time meeting potential. This may sound harsh but my time is limited and rather use that to find and build something meaningful and real time with someone than spend my time with q & a,  there are many other prospects who would enjoy q and a or an online dynamic but not me

Third you should be local to my location which is both Long Island (Suffolk County, about 1 hour east of Nyc if taking the LIRR and the Capital Region - Albany which is 2 hours north of NYC) as I commute between the two and have residences in both areas. If you are not local you should be willing and open to discuss relocation. No I will not pay for your flight however will reimburse you the minute I get you from the airport or upon your arrival if traveling. AGAIN make sure you know where I am located and the distance / travel required

Fourth dont waste my f(*& time, if your a weak minded individual and unable to speak clearly of your desires and keep you promises do not contact me, I have zero tolerance for pathetic weak people looking for a fantasy with zero intent of anything real. Whats the old expression, say what you mean, mean what you say

Fifth point, have had many requests of young submissive and slaves with a 25 year or more age gap, who like 99.9% of everyone else were fake, yes age is only a number but the gap needs to be reasonable, no one younger than 30 please

Sixth communication. If you do not know how to fluidly communicate or at least make an effort too, DO NOT contact me. If your only means of talking is emails on the Cage , kik or other 3rd party apps vs  texting or personal conversations DO NOT contact me.  If I have to repeat myself, asking the same question multiple times I will just end the conversation , no one should have to repeat them self. I have screened and talked to many possible partners and over the years have heard it all why someone will not share a number. I can go on and on but you have the idea.

Seventh be in reasonable shape and healthy. I am not looking for someone perfect by any means as I am far from perfect but you should be healthy enough for long intense sessions. Able to stand restrained and tied to a St Andrews cross for hours if I want, or tied over a saw horse or spanking bench if in the mood, hog tied and left alone or put in a cage for hours

Eight go back and re-read everything several more times again because clearly reading it the first time does not work as I continue to just have my time wasted

Now that all that nonsense is out of the and may sound harsh but lets face it, reality of the internet and all the non sense so now onto my posting

Me just your average guy next door type with a great occupation, circle of friends and happy in my life. Anything I want I work for as nothing is ever handed to us.............very tall standing 6'4 with a strong build at 260lbs, brown hair and eyes sometimes sporting a goa-tee with a wide variety of interests in and out of the lifestyle content and looking for someone to share that dynamic with both in and out of a bd ds sm content.

Sorry no photo simply due to occupational reasons. I have one of those jobs where any social media is monitored/checked as well as finances, credit score etc. So as you can imagine I keep this side very private. No I will not send just a dick pick, NO I will not send a picture with dark glasses and hat, NO I will not send a picture shoulders down. GET THE HINT if an issues no problem just dont contact me. If you can respect it great look forward to hearing from you.

Although into the bd ds sm content, I am very extreme. I define myself as a Master and Sadist. I am not a daddy or a dominant please know the difference.

I have a small play space, bags of gear/equipment and like to push the body. Anyone can have gear such as I, but it needs to be used safely and effectively. I am an assertive, educated, disease-free, successful and an intelligent professional who enjoys punishing the boundaries. I am also a sadistic and someone with a high pain tolerance or a masochist would compliment me well. I wont cross the line of your limits but I will certainly test and push it to that breaking point

Additionally I have core requirements of my partner beside the obvious or loyal, honest, open lines of communication during scenes / sessions shaved smooth, collar, thigh highs or garters and 5 to 6in closed toe stilettos. Again these core requirements are what I like and desire. If you do not have such items and have no objections do not worry I will purchase them for you, along with anything else I may enjoy seeing you if things get to that point.

I enjoy and will be leaving marks, bruises, welts that will heal in a few days in areas that you can cover. Being a "normal" type professional guy, there are no worries about things getting out of hand, and I respect all limits - and love to teach newcomers and first-timers the joys of, and what it takes to be submissive, I am very careful about this - it is for our fun and mutual pleasure at the end of the day.

So now that the kink is out of the way, I do have a normal side. If the relationship is just casual kink that is fine. If it evolves to something more with a combination of a kink and no kink relationship I enjoy many things. In my free time I like to hang out with friends, play rugby, restore and work on old cars. I used to race but have not in a while and want to get back into it. I enjoy going to comedy clubs, movies, weekend drives no where, and even that I suck at it enjoy going out once in a while for a fun game of darts, shooting pool or bowling. I enjoy quiet times at home with the pups. So with that said there are just a few of the normal things I enjoy but keep in mind the relationship at all times will have Dominant/sub or Master/slave tone to it

So one may think my profile/posting is a little on the extreme side and it is, but know the difference between a Dominant Master and a domineering fake. I am very old fashioned and traditional as well, typical old school values, where I believe the man should be the provider, protector and takes care of what needs to be done. You will never be left wanting, alone, or in need, protected when needed and cared for. If our relationship / friendship is strong I will always be around when needed most.

I am open to various dynamics anything from
training
fwb
long term dom/sub or Master/slave dynamic
24x7 and live in. If 24x7 you will have the option to be a stay at home slave not working taking care of the home, animals and making sure you are ready and prepared for training/session by the time I get home.

It’s not that I want to hurt you I just take my pleasure from the pain you feel You’ll enjoy it too if you allow yourself Stinging hot throbbing flesh feels so soft Satisfy me with your agony Crave my torture until you can no longer be in control Be my willing victim
BDSM and me
I have been active in the bd ds sm lifestyle for over 2 decades and have become very experienced and enjoy pushing the mind and body. I am a very physical and intense individual looking for an equally intense submissive/slave who wants to have her mind and body pushed. You will go far beyond simple bondage and spanking

I will push your limits and boundaries but never cross the line.  I want a submissive or slave who does not throw in the towel. When you think you can not take anymore you dig deep and go further.  I share the normal limits of most sane and respectful but enjoy bondage, tight bondage, suspension, gags, sensory deprivation, orgasm control, fisting, breath play, lead and leash, fire play, electric play, needle play, use of tens unit, cage play, impact play, whips, canes, crops, paddles, hair pulling, gang bangs and the list is really endless once hard limits are discussed and established....how are are you willing to go??? Additionally if any of the items listed are a limit for you, I do not see us being a good match.

You should have a high pain tolerance and stamina, after a long stressful day on the job I enjoy 1-2 hour sessions when getting home and putting several hours aside on the weekend, 4 to 6 hours. I also would enjoy someone who is a size queen or willing to become one. I enjoy using large toys, plugs, dildos, fisting in addition to naturally endowed friends included in gang bangs when hosted.

Additionally I do have a basic core requirement of my submissive/slave that I will repeat again here.....shaved smooth, manicured, thigh highs / garters and 5 to 6in closed toe stiletto heels when engaged in bd ds sm activities. Again if you do not have, I will provide them if your ok with the requirement

I am sure there is much more to discuss so if the above has gotten the majority of your attention please say hello
Limits
perm marks, animals, children, drugs, bathroom play with exception of gs maybe and anything illegal....the norm
Update date
Tuesday, June 29, 2021
Member since
Wednesday, October 17, 2018
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