Online now
Online now


16 hours ago. Jan 15, 2021, 6:25 PM


Is forged in the fires of a relationship. 

Tested by hard times.

Reinforced by slaying dragons together.

Learned from consistent actions.

Shared and nurtured over a long time.

Bloodied and healed by a burning need for one another.


Trust is love.



2 days ago. Jan 13, 2021, 6:34 PM

Often we struggle ..not because of who we are but because there are outside influence that peck at us. Those empathic or of good heart take on those quests because they want to help.


The fact is we cannot do much beyond a small circle to help. First loyalty is to our own health and well being-- physically, mentally, emotionally. Second our Family and third to the small circle we trust and love. A VERY small circle.


Those outside of this small group are useful people or useless people. It is not hard to tell.. useless people get ignored and forgotten.


No hate, no intolerance just a simple are you useful to me or useless. If useless please go live a good life and prosper. I will have no need of you.


No matter ones good "intentions" one cannot save the world. It is a group of small healthy circles that will save the world.


I hope you will be easy on fear- but become vigilant as to who you let in that wall.  Honor yourself and wellbeing, love deeply do not be quick to forgive, be honest with yourself and others.


Learn to let go of that which you cannot control. Adjust to it and prosper in any environment.


In this maybe we can find peace?


My philosophy, shared in hopes it may be of use to you. Input openly welcomed.

1 week ago. Jan 9, 2021, 12:46 AM

1 week ago. Jan 7, 2021, 7:01 PM

In my profile I have this meme.. I created it 2 years ago.

This relates to strength, confidence, competence and a will that says-- I may not always be right but you better be damn good at showing me why not.


I had a discussion asking if these traits can be groomed into a slave or must they be entirely born to this personality. How in submission can they possibly exist with a master / slave dynamic.


I did not have to think long about this.  It can be groomed BUT!  The slave must have the Brilliance, intuitiveness, competence  and serious will and desire to gain this strength.


Two years is the time it took me.  She must speak truth to power without hesitation or remorse.  This is done by my insistence that she never edit a thought. She may fear the response but with time and trust she learns to openly share..that I will listen,consider her thoughts (I add that is because she is Brilliant beyond words) - I promise her I will listen and learn if I need the lesson.


Power is shared, confidence grows until she is the Wolf standing beside me.   My pride is enormous. My respect unfathomable and my love everlasting.


Yes you can groom power and strength.  You need an exceptional girl who will never quit. And I can never quit as well.


Time=trust=growth=power exchange





1 week ago. Jan 6, 2021, 5:55 PM

Clickbait you say?

INFJ is the rarest type in the population. It is the least common type among men, and the third least common among women (after INTJ and ENTJ). INFJs make up: 2% of the general population. (I am not an INFJ)

INFJ are easily spotted yet the most difficult to comprehend for me.

In their writing, thinking amd word, they yell out to me. Complex, smart, brilliant, deep, empathic and a nemesis.

Every run in, but one, has left me turning on my heel and running in terror. I am loath to understand them---transparent to their view of me--- unable to relate to their thought process as a lowly crab that I am.

An enigma.. yes that is a good word. Nemesis --yes!  in one intense experience. Better?  maybe so.

Now to the walrus..a handsome fella!  In my unofficial cage profile survey ,fully 55% of the profiles claim INFJ. Remember they are easy to spot in their writing and thoughts. Profiles will be long,complex and challenging.

Soooo when you claim INFJ in a 2 line profile and in a message to me that says-- Hey!!

I think maybe you are a walrus and not what you claim...   you can not enter the INFJ club by just declaring it so.


 I need to add INFJ have wonderful traits I don't know of any negatives. ..the one I relate to most is attention to detail. NOTHING escapes their gaze. Either intuitively or by dogged research they will find the answer. One way I spot them is by the research they do. If they miss things right in front of them or by easy reading or digging. ...then we have a walrus. 


1 week ago. Jan 6, 2021, 1:46 AM

The catch phrase of the day..

I guess they are a dime a dozen!

I will spare you the diatribe.

There are indeed plenty of fish in the sea.




1 week ago. Jan 4, 2021, 7:57 PM

 More and more I see newcomers to the cage looking for the lifestyle to rescue them from what ails them.

Somewhere the idea of control or Dominance came to mean rescue.

Nothing could be further than the truth!

A Dominant will not save you! The best he can do is focus you to do the WORK you must do yourself. He may have tools to share but YOU must wield them.


He can not give you or take away from you-anything.


He can patiently or if needed, impatiently, direct you, maybe save you from a pitfall.BUT he can never rescue you.

He of course may mean she/they/it  Dominance is not gender exclusive. 



1 week ago. Jan 2, 2021, 8:51 PM

I want to share something My Eva shared with me.  The author is unknown.


Attitude is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, money, circumstances, than failures and success, then what other people think, say, or do. It is more important than appearance, ability, or skill.

It will make or break a business, a home, a friendship, an organization. The remarkable thing is I have a choice every day of what my attitude will be.

I cannot change my past. I cannot change the actions of others. I cannot change the inevitable. The only thing I can change is attitude.

Life is 10 percent what happens to me and 90 percent how I react to it.


The positive energy I feel in the universe going into this year is strong!  very strong. 

I know for all it will end as a very teaching, insightful and caring year.

2 weeks ago. Jan 1, 2021, 6:20 PM


Towards thee I roll, thou all-destroying but unconquering whale; to the last I grapple with thee; from hell’s heart I stab at thee; for hate’s sake I spit my last breath at thee.


Sink all coffins and all hearses to one common pool! and since neither can be mine, let me then tow to pieces, while still chasing thee, though tied to thee, thou damned whale!


Thus, I give up the spear!


Khan quotes Moby-Dick

“…To the last, I grapple with thee; from hell’s heart, I stab at thee; for hate’s sake, I spit my last breath at thee.”
- Moby-Dick, quoted by Khan Noonien Singh

2 weeks ago. Jan 1, 2021, 5:00 PM

There is no better time to throttle up!  Prosper you will be!