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8 hours ago. Jan 21, 2022, 4:41 PM

Friends are a touchy subject in this lifestyle.  I long maintained that in the vanilla world males and females cannot be "just" friends. That one party would always want more from the other than they were willing to give.

Realta and I have had long conversations over this. She introduced me to firm Boundaries and Honesty with those opposite sex friends.   She sees value in interactions with the opposite sex outside of a deeper relationship. 

It is hard to believe that it took me this long to consider that.

You all know well in this lifestyle we have titles, roles in brackets..markers to see where most of us stand. My old guard ways do not allow me to communicate with a taken female in any way at all.  It is just a hard and fast rule burned in my brain.

Some of you know I like to read your blogs, I see promise in what you may bring to the community and I can be friendly.  I am even happy for some that have found their other half. When they do, I cheer them on.  I do not disappear because I feel unfriendly, but because of protocol.

I have helped some get settled in here. Keeping in mind Realtas voice in my ear. Have friends--set boundaries-enforce them.  She has opened my eyes. perhaps it is possible?

I know I must not be the only one to have wrestled with this. For the other side, I wonder how you even sort out a friend from someone with another agenda.

2 days ago. Jan 19, 2022, 4:20 AM

 

Dedicated to so many of us...

Take my hand... 

 

Once upon a time not so long ago
Tommy used to work on the docks, union's been on strike
He's down on his luck, it's tough, so tough
Gina works the diner all day working for her man
She brings home her pay, for love, for love
She says, we've got to hold on to what we've got
It doesn't make a difference if we make it or not
We've got each other and that's a lot for love
We'll give it a shot
Woah, we're half way there
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Take my hand, we'll make it I swear
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Tommy's got his six-string in hock
Now he's holding in what he used to make it talk
So tough, it's tough
Gina dreams of running away
When she cries in the night, Tommy whispers
Baby, it's okay, someday
We've got to hold on to what we've got
It doesn't make a difference if we make it or not
We've got each other and that's a lot for love
We'll give it a shot
Woah, we're half way there
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Take my hand, we'll make it I swear
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Livin' on a prayer
Oh, we've got to hold on, ready or not
You live for the fight when it's all that you've got
Woah, we're half way there
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Take my hand, we'll make it I swear
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Woah, we're half way there
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Take my hand, we'll make it I swear
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Woah, we're half way there
Woah, livin' on a prayer
Take my hand, we'll make it I swear
Woah, livin' on a prayer

3 days ago. Jan 18, 2022, 5:25 PM

A recurring theme on The Cage, less so on other sites, is the term "Block" or  "Ghost".

Cage gives us the ability to prevent contact but also to hide Blogs.

I have always thought of this as a tool. Submissives can end conversations for safety or even just annoyance. Blogs that are empty or disagreeable are easily removed from sight. Posters can prevent rude or disrespectful comments posted to their thoughts.

Curating ones feed is a tool, no more.  Life is to short to be forced to endure. Block and Hide are useful tools here. 

Please use them wisely, do not abuse others with it.  

Curating is the perfect word for managing ones time here on the Cage.

 

2 weeks ago. Jan 7, 2022, 6:34 AM

Two of us riding nowhere
Spending someone's
Hard earned pay
You and me Sunday driving
Not arriving
On our way back home
We're on our way home
We're on our way home
We're going home

Two of us sending postcards
Writing letters
On my wall
You and me burning matches
Lifting latches
On our way back home
We're on our way home
We're on our way home
We're going home

You and I have memories
Longer than the road that stretches out ahead

Two of us wearing raincoats
Standing solo
In the sun
You and me chasing paper
Getting nowhere
On our way back home
We're on our way home
We're on our way home
We're going home

You and I have memories
Longer than the road that stretches out ahead

Two of us wearing raincoats
Standing solo
In the sun
You and me chasing paper
Getting nowhere
On our way back home
We're on our way home
We're on our way home
We're going home

 

 

 

 

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2 weeks ago. Jan 5, 2022, 8:45 PM

A Moment each day, even 2 or 3 times a day to stop.....clear the mind....focus on what is yours... Just a Moment- then back to work, off to bed- life goes on.  It goes on, closer to the one you love, even in chaos.

 

For you I wish health, I will do all I can to promote this.

For you I wish Peace, at home, at work, with family.

For you I wish Prosperity, from your hard work and amazing talents.

For you I wish the Future, moving forward...never back.

For us I wish Love and faith in one another.

For us I wish patience.

For us I wish the future.

 

 

2 weeks ago. Jan 4, 2022, 10:26 PM

A relationship, like a book - follows a map.

My Realta and I often do a "look back" to where we have been..how we got there and are there any TBD lurking in our past. { To be determined)

 I see things in Chapters, moments and verses burned in my brain. I see taste and feel them as if I were there. It is easy to pick up my book and find any moment in out time.

There is a dedication, introduction, prolog and chapters past, present and future. Some recorded, some in progress some yet to be written.

It is a gift to both have this book to look back, as those who know me is a fault I cannot change, monitor the relationship day to day and finally, to map out future hopes and dreams.

This may be an ISTJ organizational thing? My INFJ Realta seems to enjoy as well. Although she has much deeper insight into to the details of things, I welcome the color in the book.

Is this an unusual practice?  I have not discussed with any couples. I suspect it is not rare, given the lifestyle.

I am curious. 

 

 

3 weeks ago. Dec 31, 2021, 4:44 PM

Always Forward---Never back...

 

3 weeks ago. Dec 29, 2021, 3:37 PM

In the Sierras. 

3 weeks ago. Dec 28, 2021, 5:25 PM

4 weeks ago. Dec 23, 2021, 5:52 AM

The grinch.. Who stole Christmas... On The road to family. Turning around. Maybe in the new year.