I’ve been a Dominant in this lifestyle for 12 years now. Since the beginning I’ve always prioritized compatibility. Compatibility in and out the bedroom. How she makes me feel about myself. Also, how interested and invested she is into me and our relationship. I never prioritized looks, age, experience level, location, weight, height, their job, etc in order to determine if this is the right submissive for me. Our compatibility for eachother in this lifestyle as always been my priority.
I know people seeking Dominants and Submissives but rejecting the initial interaction because of something superficial. That tells me the lifestyle comes second to your demand of him being 6 feet, or your demand that she weighs less than you. The power dynamic is being treated like an accessory to dating preferences rather than a relational framework. For me, the foundation of this lifestyle is mutual alignment, trust, and intention, not aesthetics or checklists.