Waiting

For my Submissive

The Connection

The exchange of power in what we have makes us strong and durable: my strength makes you weak but I am here to protect and develop you.

You are safe, always, even if you may feel vulnerable at times. You have nothing to fear: Sir only wants the best for you.

You are free, empowered, yet bound to me, captivated by the way your Sir makes you feel.

You know I can have you, take anything from you, however I desire it to be.

You are intimately connected to your Sir and you crave that dominance, that direction, that commitment and overpowering desire to submit, to satisfy and please only me.

I will be firm and gentle with how I show my love for you.

You will feel empowered and humble by the ways in which I direct you to satisfy me.

You will always want and always need to delight your Sir

For my Submissive

I want you to stand next to me, always me, your Sir, always, respectful and dedicated.
I want you to stand next to me confident in your beauty and submission.
I want you to stand next to me because you simply cannot imagine standing next to anyone else.
Ever,

Owned

I Own you.

I want your sleepy, confused look when you wake up.

I am the warmth that is there in your bed.

I am the blanket that you seek out in the dark when you are cold, giving you that reassurance that you need.

I see your passions and thoughts all of the time: you hide nothing from me.

I will have no hesitation in correcting you and putting you in your place, in public or in private.

I know your flaws, all of them.

I will not hesitate to Reset your thinking in any way I think fit.

I am in the deepest, darkest corners of your mind.

I will always want to see you develop, be more for yourself, and for what we have.

You will chase and deliver what I crave.

Sir.

Being Owned

In the space of your gasp, when I put my hand on your throat, on your neck, when I touch your clit, spank your bottom, or whatever I choose to do to you, I will be within your walls, calming and focusing you and your thoughts.

I will Own and invade your mind, just as my physical presence invades your awareness and feelings.

You will feel my pressure and control, growing and filling you, coursing and raging through your very soul; touching places that no one has ever reached before, or ever will.

I am the fever, the heat, the passion that drives you from within, tingling and rippling across your skin.

I will calm you and excite you at the same time.

I will be the wall that imprisons your heart and makes you totally mine.

I will be the key that truly sets you free.

Sir

Be submissive to me, always, never deviate from this.

This is absolutely central to your duty to me.

Abstinence will focus your mind on me, me alone and my Gift will be letting you cum. However to receive that Gift you know that you will have to work hard. Very hard.  

Your dedication and focus keeps your attention where it should always be.

Give yourself to me in every way you can and then think hard and ask yourself have I lived up to Sir's standards and have I pleased him?

Key Words That Are Essential For My Submissive

The following for me really capture the power of the relationship between myself and my Submissive as they permeate through every part of our connection. They are cornerstones for the relationship and give certainty and structure.

Acceptance: knowing that The Rules, protocols and routines are set and that they will be there until Sir decides otherwise. This gives assurance when she is doubtful or troubled, knowing that Sir is there to guide and instruct.

Obedience: knowing that Sir’s Orders must be followed to the letter but also knowing that these are set for her development, growth and to make her the best Submissive that she can be.

Dedication: knowing that the focus on Sir is of paramount importance in all that she does, thinks and works towards. Family and work/career are very important alongside this but loyalty and commitment to Sir are essential.

Permission: knowing that Permission is needed where decisions need to be made. Again, this is all about Dedication and Obedience.

Control: knowing that Sir can direct behaviour, choices, physical position and Tasks to demonstrate that I am present even when there is physical distance between us. Control is essential, small but simple examples show this as does setting more difficult and challenging Tasks.

Reminders of the Five Words should not be necessary but form the basis of any Attitude Adjustment that may be required when things slip or when behaviour becomes wayward.

A Nice Little Distraction

As you have been somewhat playful (your definition, not mine I hasten to say) it is time to deliver a little learning session reflecting the need for you to change your attitude. I consider that you have been disrespectful and that cannot be allowed to pass unnoticed or unpunished because, as we all know, such behaviour spreads like wildfire and creates significant problems further down the line.

I tell you to get undressed and to stand with your back to me while I tie your wrists and put a blindfold over your eyes, telling you to be very still. I carefully turn you around and guide you to the couch where I lay you on your back.

Instinctively you open your legs, in an effort to please your Sir, mindful of now trying to redress the balance from earlier and anxious about not knowing exactly what is coming. Good strategy but Sir is unimpressed.

I tease your nipples with my fingers, making them ache and tingle, sensitive and getting sore yet wanting Sir’s attention to continue. Shame, because I stop and am silent.

The silence is deafening for you and the lack of Sir’s touch is worrying. What might I be thinking? What might be happening next?

What comes next is the sensation of a series of sharp but exciting ripples across your skin, dancing across your gorgeous tummy, zigzagging as Sir decides upon the pathways and the patterns, moving carefully across your nipples, making then tingle and dance. They are hard and aching for attention.

I move the Wartenberg Wheel back over your tummy and you instinctively arch your back, in full knowledge and anticipation of where I will be taking it next, exciting, tingling with anticipation and knowing that you have put your faith in Sir’s guidance and support. I move the wheel and run it along the inside of your gorgeous thighs, running the wheel back and forth, skimming your gorgeous pussy which I can see is wet and very excited.

I remove the Wheel from any contact with your body and ask you if you are sorry for your poor behaviour and attitude earlier: breathlessly you confirm that you are and that you will not do that again.

Possibly not, but almost certainly to be repeated in some form down the line.

I then run the wheel up and down the outside of your pussy. Lightly, carefully, with intricate patterns, gently teasing your clit, circling her, using the tips of the wheel to make her throb and tingle, making you gasp at the sensation, something new and something making you very wet and hot.

I remind you that your attitude needs to change radically and that I expect better from you, otherwise the Wheel will return and we will revisit this.

I leave you there to think about your poor behaviour, to reflect on why you failed to reach Sir’s standards and what you will do to redeem yourself.

You know that a firm fucking is about to be delivered to complete this attitude adjustment, something to satisfy your aching and longing to now please your Sir.

Now, should I allow you to cum, or do I withhold that, because, as you well know, that is a precious gift from your Sir, and this is correcting your mindset, is it not?

Submit to Sir

I will take you any way I want to, that is the deal.

In doing so, when it happens, taking you either quickly or slowly, is Sir’s choice.

Your anticipation and Adrenalin is so sweet, I can feel it in your skin, your hair, your breath, your lips But most importantly in your Taste.

I smell it.

I Taste it.

I love it.

Always.

Maintenance

Everything needs some form of Maintenance unless the item or commodity is a one-use product or service: the cup holding your Costa for instance (unless you want to take it home and use it as a temporary plant pot, possibly) or the cheap Biro pen you use to scribble your notes, make a shopping list or write to your Aunt from Cleveland (once it runs out, it is finished).

Maintenance keeps things running well and allows for corrective action to be taken, to make sure that there are no unwelcome surprises on the horizon. Think a regular 8,000 mile service for your car, identifying actions needed to keep the engine in pristine condition.

I think you get the picture and the principles here.

Maintenance is VERY important in making sure that my Submissive operates within the boundaries that have been set and which must be respected. To not have a process of Maintenance means that things are at risk of crumbling and decaying into a position where there is uncertainty, slackness, a lowering of standards and a loss of respect.

Maintenance needs to be a regular and programmed activity that refreshes commitment and dedication but which also, very importantly, gives certainty.

Maintenance needs to be focused on the following areas:

·        Emotional contact: regular support, guidance and introducing context and meaning. Just because you said that her welfare and thoughts were important once does not mean that you should just leave it there. Closeness and connection are essential.

·        Rules re-enforcement and refresh: this area needs attention to make sure that the guiding principles that you have set are being followed. Human nature will always be to seek out shortcuts and cheats around systems: the lifestyle is no different to this so a firm eye on behaviour is essential. Even the most placid Submissive will push against the Rules, pretend to be a little wayward and flutter her eyelashes to wheedle out of Rules. Reaffirming the Rules and correcting behaviour is a key Maintenance role.

·        Symbols: any jewellery or clothing that has been specified needs to be followed and your Maintenance needs to ensure that this is not forgotten, ignored or cast aside. This might be the start of a slippery slope which, if left unchallenged, will result in a lot of effort and work to pull back. Make sure that there is NO deviation here.

·        Protocols: daily routines need to be followed to the proverbial letter. At your Desk by a certain time, instructions on how to sit, leg positions, information about Breakfast and Lunch, specific clothing on specific days all figure here. Good Maintenance would be enforcing a change at short notice to keep her focused and diligent.

·        Spankings: an essential part of Maintenance. The Maintenance Spanking is just that, to act as a reminder of her place and her dedication. Not as hard as a Punishment Spanking but a firm and warm (no pun intended) cue that Ownership and Obedience are the cornerstones of the relationship. Delivered both when there appears to be a little deviation emerging but also valuable as a clear reminder that there is a position here to be honoured, cherished and kept.

·        Control: deviations are to be challenged the moment they appear. Like the weeds that grow in a path, this needs to be sorted as soon as it presents itself. Certainty is critical in the lifestyle and Control embodies this. Listen to what is being said, think about the views that you are hearing and then decide, clearly and firmly, what will be happening next. Bratty or challenging behaviour is to be expected from time to time but Maintenance is all about keeping Control which will benefit both parties.

·        Setting Tasks: from a Maintenance perspective set at least one Task each day, however small it might be, but vary this so that a pattern does not emerge. This could be writing in her Journal for you to see and comment upon, giving a book to read and instructing when to read a specific chapter or taking a specific picture for you to look at. When there are no specifics to focus upon her mind can wander away from the path that you have set.

·        Pleasure Control: giving permission to play and cum. This is very important as a Maintenance tool as it gives you the ability to reward for good behaviour and to punish for things that have displeased you by withholding this. Make sure that you use this tool wisely, set parameters and guidelines on what she is allowed to focus upon as she plays and ensure that you receive an appropriate level of gratitude for your gift.

Maintenance is always to be taken seriously to keep the relationship on track and with the focus upon you at the centre of everything.

Focus

Focus and application are the cornerstones of the dynamic and essential if the connection is to grow and develop. Any wavering or lack of attention detracts from the power of the links between us.

Needless to say that will neither go unnoticed or unpunished.

Think about driving down a country lane at night, woods at either side.  (The woods are lovely, dark and deep. But I have promises to keep. And miles to go before I sleep: I cannot resist a slice of Robert Frost!).

The lights of the car pierce the darkness, light the way and give a clear path, the light beam having boundaries, its centre giving direction and focus, moving around the bends and dips in the road accordingly. However the car moves the light beam remains the focus of my attention.

Focus: the main or central point of something, especially of attention or interest: a centre of activity, attraction, or attention: a point of concentration

1640s, "point of convergence," from Latin focus "hearth, fireplace"

Picking up the Latin, focus is where the warmth and heat sits in the connection.

A clear commitment to deliver, with dedication and enthusiasm, whatever is required of you, whenever it is required, with the solid intention of pleasing your Sir.

Focus is a two-way street however: my focus is upon moulding and training my Submissive as I go, making her the best she can be, both in the lifestyle but also supporting and directing in her career, interactions and involvement with others in the Vanilla world and in being a sounding board for her.

Her focus on me is to please and satisfy her Sir. My focus will involve challenge and pushing against boundaries where I feel that is beneficial for her, but not at the risk of extreme discomfort or unease.

Focus is immediate and is the music of our dance: this never switches off or quietens down.