My Inbox Only:
2024 is almost over, so RESPECTFULLY confess something you've wanted to tell me. It will be between us.
~Put this as your status and see who surprises you.~ Hoping I don't regret doing this.
Original challenge can be found here:
https://thecage.co/blog/userblog.php?blog_id=117847
We live and learn
we get banged up in the process
and from the pain and confusion comes
self-awareness
self-confidence
clarity
and love.
I'd like to extend a whole-hearted welcome to Evany,
with the hope-no-expectation that we will build
Heaven on Earth
for the Baby Girl, the Witch, and the Wolfie
with much love,
💕💕💕Hekate
Eros just said the most amazing thing and I wanted to put it out there for discussion.
"Another deep cut received.
Yet, we are still moving forward.
Though the cut was deep, it was not a mortal wound.
It will be just another scar in time that will bring rememberance to what it means to put it all out there time and time again."
Here's to everyone going to Naughty Revival single 😜
Can't hold me
I'll walk out of my skin
Before I let you fold me
Deeply into the liminal space between the here and now and the primordial forces that created this place, I feel His power most potently here. The urge to find meaning, to wonder, to play, to create...
Waking, I'm found lingering here, resting, I'm led more deeply there. His touch is life, his breath, divine, his heat, all mine
I'm called to love in His unspeakable ways, to spend my life in a forward daze
Where art thou, I discern still more, seeking on a more distant shore
I know your light, I conceal Your dark, I know your will, your being, your ark
I need a list, a wheel, a shark, a reason to linger, to sputter, to spark
And roar to life, showy, loud and in your gaze, revealing, proud
Deliver Act 7, on Earth is Heaven
Shatter, splinter, evolve, enshroud know nothing, and bathe in the Word and Loud
But why stop at 3 ladies when you could have 4?
Meet Freya, Frigg, Hel, and Farrah.
😁
Meet our newest members, Freya (white), Frigg (blue roan) and Hel (black).
Heh Heh Heh 😼
Don't make a fool of yourself by sending volumes of sometimes contradictory and *always* unsolicited rants lecturing us on how we are not being sensitive to YOUR chosen subculture with OUR word choice or what we're looking for in OUR subculture. It's blatantly hypocritical.
We are a D/s couple living a BDSM contract lifestyle looking at *possibly* adding a third if we find someone eager to be a part of our lifestyle. We know that many other subcultures have their own rules and verbiage, and we respect that, asking only that you do the same. If our post doesn't appeal to you, there is a good reason: We aren't looking for the same things.
You can: 1) Comment positively 2) Express interest; or 3) Respectfully disagree (in a line or two, not a book about how we need to change, complete with links to still more pages of opinion pieces that assume more about us than is possible to deduce from the posts and support a niche lifestyle that you have chosen for yourself)
We know we live a niche lifestyle. We are in a 24/7 D/s closed relationship. This allows me to go out and work in a stressful, professional job and come home to the very traditional BDSM dynamic that honors what works for us in private 😈. We know we have "couples privilege" and we honor that by being upfront, honest, and willing to discuss any and all things openly.
💕Hekate
Today I woke up in gratitude for my husband/Dom Eros. Why? He is everything I need/want in a Dom with none of the toxic, fake, intsa-dom traits. In some ways, I am too smart for my own good. In others, I am thick as a brick.
I have a rich and diverse trauma history that is exquisitely interwoven with my masochistic and sub tendencies. I also work professionally and need to be assertive and pleasantly, patiently persistent, sometimes with well-educated, otherwise intelligent egotists and misogynists. They are out there and drawn to positions of power (and me, it feels like on some days). In lifestyle, I'm a switch, with some tendencies toward Domming anyone who will let me.
I test. I know how to instigate reactions, throw curveballs, pout, challenge authority, and brat, amongst many other things. After a lot of inner spiritual work and therapy, I have managed to heal somewhat from cPTSD from more than one severe stressor/life-threatening or ending event. I try to be extremely self-disclosing and open about where I'm at and where I'm coming from at any given time. I own my own stuff.
That being said, I'm not the easiest to be in a relationship with or Dom. I have *mostly* healed anxious and avoidant attachment issues. I have a fear of commitment, a fear of true intimacy, a fear of losing control, and a fear of abandonment. I do those things now, BUT: I test. I challenge.
One of my kinks is being with someone who doesn't submit or overreact. I need a very secure, very masculine, very self-aware Dom who has all the strength and poise and none of the toxicity. Nobody is perfect, but Eros is pretty bomb-proof. There's nothing sexier *to me* than popping off like a Roman candle in every direction and color and being wrapped in bemusement and love and well-deserved playtime afterward.
I guard my independence and survival skills like the lifelines they have been all of my life, but the ability to surrender them and be vulnerable in safety, security, steady love, and structure is the epitome of a D/s 24/7 relationship. We put our relationship and each others' well-being and personal growth first. We talk extensively and often. We work hard and play harder.
To all the great D's out there who give the Four Pillar Lifestyle a good name and love the risks and rewards of a driven and challenging partner: Thank you. You make the world a better place.
💕Hekate
I like adventure. I'm a bit uniquely flavored and I like me that way. My Dom/husband and I keep our minds and door open to a like-minded adventurous third who is attracted to us and the lifestyle we are building. I don't swing. We're not looking for play partners. We are looking for, if it happens, a third who wants to mutually invest in an equitable relationship that resembles nothing as much as a three-legged stool with a nice, even, level seat.
So all it has been so far is mate poachers. That come on with the whole "I'm looking for a thruple. I'm bi. I'm more physically attracted to women. I want to be submissive to you BOTH." and within a day or two are talking more to the D side, talking more about his pleasure and his preferences, and on, and on, and a thousand more cues that what they really want to do is address their issues with bad experiences and self-esteem issues is to drive a wedge and leave with one, usually him.
I'm a very well-educated psychotherapist. So well that I'm in a partnership because I want to be, not because I need to be. I love people, and am fascinated with what makes them tick. I've studied it exclusively for over 30 years. I'm open-minded; I don't mind helping someone we're attracted to work through the traumatic past they have, which is so common to people in this lifestyle, myself included. But don't take kindness for weakness or stupidity. I can afford the risk of an open relationship. The chances of you successfully pulling the wool over my eyes in this area are slim to none.
So come with your intentions as bare as your asses. Or don't come at all.
End Rant