Rants and Other Things

I have noticed many subs going through what I have gone through and it's so surprising. A lifestyle that is focused on trust and putting your life into someone's hands gets turned into the worst heartbreak possible. My Dom (or ex Dom i should say) went ghost. It has almost been two months since i last heard from him. How can someone who tells you day in and day out how much he adores you, he's never going to give you up, and other things just disappear? Thoughts go racing through your mind. Is he sick? Is he hurt? That was my power to give, not his. 

I sent one last email, obviously he didn't deactivate it because it didn't bounce back, that i was healing and i was done with him. It gave a little relief, but i have to realize that will be my closure. I will never forget him and can only hope that i can find a Dom like him but one who lives by his words and not run from them.

I can't thank you enough, Doms and subs, who have given me the support i so desperately needed and being assured that this is not acceptable in this lifestyle. 

To those that are currently going through this hurt and torment, be the phoenix you were meant to be. Rise from the ashes and dust yourself off. This will make you stronger than you could ever realize. Do not let him take your power away. You are stronger and better than that. You just don't know it yet.

I will never forget him, but he will no longer take my power away and fill me with sadness and misery. Goodbye Doug.

I've only been on this site for a short time (a few months I think) and I have some things to say.

1. This lifestyle is non judgemental. So stop with the what people should and shouldn't do! It's none of your business! If you want to give suggestions, that's different, but you have no right, sub or Dom, to tell people what they should and shouldn't do. Unless it goes against the lifestle mind you.

2. I've been in the chat room and it's ridiculous how a few certain people are so negative and bitch and moan and crticize about everything! That room is a way for people to socialize, get support when needed, and talk about life in general. If you dont have anything but negativity to bring, then get the fuck out and all you drama whores..get out as well.

3. I've read blogs and forums about random issues, most of which had helped me during my recovery, and I cannot believe the negative criticism that goes on. Who the fuck do you think you are. Who in the hell gave you the right to tell someone what is real and what isnt, what's gross and what isn't. If you want to give your opinion then start off with, "I appreciate you sharing, however its not for me" or something like that...or just dont say anything.

All of this drama and negativity needs to stop. We are criticized by vanillas, given weird looks and judged if we even mention the lifestyle we have chosen. We dont need this shit among our own. If you want to continue being negative and criticizing your own people then get off the site and create your own fucking site!