okay so I've been in the community from a bit of time and I've notice the lack of effort and thought is out into messaging submissives.
It's been for quite a long time but it's always frustrating when those who identify as a d-type doesn't take the time to actually know the sub they supposedly want.
If you want a sub, talk to us like we are normal human beings because if you remove labels we all are. Of course there's subs that prefer the sexual comments but the pure ignorance of not checking BIOS when it's a simple principle to get to know who the person is.
I've seen so many even in my bio who don't look and even something as simple as me having no one over 40 and I get messages by someone who up to 40+ years older then me.
I'm ranting at this point, but submission (and dominance) isn't a given right. It takes time usually to be comfy and even trust to safety explore what that would look like for you and your partner.
Just lordie Lord -read BIOS and treat people with respect and talk to them like they are regular people!