Drinfear's Ravings

 *sigh* I am unapologetic if feelers are damaged.. BUT, I am the FIRST to apologize if I am wrong.. I do not CARE about 'political correctness'.. FACE it, if I DID, would I even BE a DOM..? I march to MY drumbeat, usually Def Leppard, or Rush.. I have never been one to follow the tune of the Piper, or I'd be just another lemming (YES, I understand the Pied Piper led rats, but the parallels are the SAME, are they not..? 

 In the immortal words of Godsmack, "I, stand alone".. I neither refute this, nor do I deny it.. MY path is MINE.. I seek no redemption, nor acceptance for, or FROM it.. I am ME. I refuse to EVER be anything else, nor will I ever apologize for being ME.. I seek no accolades, I seek no spotlights.. I want no recognition for anything I have done, or MIGHT do in the future.. I am ME, nothing more.. 

 I have a Code of Ethics, which is FAR more restrictive on MYSELF, than those in My life.. I refuse to hold anyone else to MY standards, but DO expect to have My basest Rules.. (ABSOLUTE Honesty, Respect and Loyalty) respected by those that choose to enter My life.. These rules are expressed from day one, and re-enforced regularly as the relationship grows.. If someone lies, in even the SMALLEST of ways, HOW can they be trusted to be honest in ways that have actual MEANING..? 

 These Rules show a persns' integrity, NOT just the lip service that they will conform.. WORDS are just that.. SHOWING is what MATTERS, is it not? O.o

Dom

 If YOU had the open and honest chance,
To build the DOMNANT of your dreams..
 Would it MATTER if they are real,
Or just the outline of what they seem?

 Would you be the one to hold back?
Never fully giving in?
 Or say that those without living,
Don't appreciate your life of sin..?

 This life that we all choose,
Never knowing what's in store.
 Or to be the one left gasping,
Broken on the floor?

 Will you BE the one that thinks,
How you FEEL is what will BE?
 Or be the one left wishing,
What you believe you should never FEEL?

Dom 12/11/25

 I have bee experimenting with AI, of late.. I have found some that fit, many others that do not,, I do not judge, but speak from experience, from both sides.. DOM and Sub,, My little uses AI as well, and continually seeks clarification on terms and definitions she does not understand.. 

 I have begun to realize of late, how many come to the lifestyle with vanilla beliefs and intentions..  THIS is right, this is not only WRONG, but it is taboo, and should NOT be discussed.. I understand hard limits, not to mention the fact I have MINE listed.. HARD limits are non-negotiable, and should REMAIN as such.. But when contacting someone that HAS said limits, but try to PUSH differing views on another, it is COMPLETELY wrong, and the person SHOULD be blocked, if not, reported for attempting such deeds.. 

 If someone has CONCRETE boundaries, and refuses to change them, if YOU choose to push those boundaries, you DESERVE the consequences.. (like trying to ram a car into someone behind a concrete barrier..) You're MENTAL, and honestly need to have a 72 hour hold, pinning you in a mental ward for a (minimum) 72 hour mental evaluation, which, more often than not, will result in FAR more, and in depth, psychological evaluations..

 Like Ohio State University.. I ain't Sayin.. I'm just Sayin..

 Normally, when writing poetry, I let the words sit, sometimes for days, sometimes for weeks.. Percolating like coffee used to.. Never being forced, just letting the words, the expressions, the lyrics FLOW.. When FORCED, I have found, they do not "flow" so much as feel forced, and unrepresentative as they USUALLY are, they SHOULD be, as has been shown in My former posts.. When they are, or even FEEL like they are, forced, they do not "flow" the way they should.. It comes across as feeling "forced", which they are, and do not "flow" the way they do when the words are appropriate.. (if that makes sense..?) 

 Sometimes, I try to, for lack of a better term, 'force' lyrics, or verses, and they do not translate properly between what I SAY, and the meaning I have behind them.. (Maybe this is just ME, and nobody else has the same issues, which has happened in the past) but I find a strain on the verses I try to FORCE, over those that simply "flow" to be an actual issue, one that can be readily discerned by those reading My prose that 'flows', for lack of a better term, over those I try to MAKE fit..

 Last night, I wrote something.. kinda.. It was more FORCED, than flowing, and -I- for one felt the difference in the writing.. 

 This is NOT to say the prose cannot be corrected with further re-writing, or corrections, but it certainly did not come out the way -I- saw it doing so.. I am only asking to not be judged by the prose that is "forced" over that which actually just "flows" in the future..

 Thanks for reading..

Dom

 There are those times, when worlds collide,

When nothing is quite what it seems..

 Down is up, white is black,

You cannot trust what is seen..

 The moments when all you knew becomes wrong,

When the universe falls apart at the seams..

 Your body feels broken, is falling apart,

Like a some kind of horror show scene..

 The moment when all of your dreams become true,

When you finally reach the brass ring..

 Your dreams have been realized, wishes come true,

Every fiber of your being finally sings..

 These are the moments we realize,

Just exactly who we really are..

 All wrongs become right, in our little world,

A new height comes to raise the bar..

Dom

11/17/25

 *smile* I am a DOM.. I was raised a certain way, learning from, what I perceived, as the mistakes of those around Me..(My DM's are open for greater clarification, if needed, I will freely answer any HONEST questions asked..) I do not DO sarcasm or irony on this subject, considering the fact that the person in question was trying to, plainly and simply, assassinate Me.) 

 I have faced the demons of My past, defeated AND overcome them, becoming a stronger person in the process.. (I honestly PRAY that nobody out here has to face the trials and tribulations I have walked through, and, anyone that HAS faced them has My eternal respect..)  I will not go into the details, but anyone interested is free to contact Me for further details.. I walked My road.. I endured the trials, I came out a better man for doing so.. I am extremely proud of the man that looks back at Me from the mirror, and realize HIS is the only opinion that matters.. I live every day to ensure HE can look Me in the eye, or vice versa, as the case may be..

 IF I followed the 'normal' road, I never would have chosen to BE a DOM, as it is 'frowned on' by 'society', not a representation of who I AM.. Yes, I have kinks, as well as other things in My life that prevent Me from being 'vanilla'.. I am human and have Personal preferences.. These have not only NOT changed with time, but over 30+ years in the lifestyle, have become ingrained.. I like what I like, and will not apologize for that.. 

Dom

11/15/25

 I have NEVER been one to follow the crowd.. FACE it, if I WERE such, would I have chosen to be a DOM..? (really. REALLY..?) 

I have been a DOM, NOT just saying I am one, but LIVING the lifestyle daily, since January of 1994.. The Domme that introduced Me to the lifestyle chose to not only submit herself, and her 4 girl Household to Me, but chose to take Me under her wing and TRAIN Me for the next decade,, (I lost contact with Mistress Carol after 10 years of training, and honestly do not know her present whereabouts.. But she taught, and trained Me in the basic aspects of being a DOM.. Having been raised to be a Warrior, once introduced to the Lifestyle and the tenets, morals and principles of being a DOMINANT, I realized BOTH were complimentary and chose to embrace them both.. Mistress Carol continued to guide and teach Me, even AFTER our relationship fell apart..

 I am still here, having visited a plethora of lifestyle locations nationwide.. Performed at some, made My presence known at others.. I do what I do for ME and My Household. NOT to make a name for Myself, or to make a living at it.. I do so because I BELIEVE in the tenets and restrictions of being a DOM.. I LIVE this life by choice, not to be recognized or to make an income for doing what I do.. (NOT judging.. Such is neither My purpose or place in Life..)  

 Yes, I AM Polyamorous, and I understand such is NOT the choice of everyone here.. AGAIN, I do not judge, either way.. I have led a Poly Lifestyle since I was 16.. (though being shared WAS understood by ALL the girls in My life, at the time, it was NOT expected, or DEMANDED.. several of those girls in My life at the time, actually brought girls TO Me to add to the Household..(I ALSO admit, I did not actually force any of them to perform in synchronicity at the time, though I ALSO wonder what may have been had I chosen to, now..)

 Though I may BE a DOM, I do not believe that means FORCING anyone to do anything they do no choose to participate in.. -I- believe submission is a gift.. One that can only be given FREELY.. If bullied, or FORCED, all you get is FEAR, not actual submission, which only fosters fear, reluctance and thoughts of revolution against Tyranny (see the present day revolution against President Donald Trump, claiming Him to be a "king" or "emperor" uh huh.. "accept the vote" and "whoever gets voted in is President" be damned, right..?)

 The girl, or, in some instances, girlS in My life are there by CHOICE.. Some of the girls from My past, going back to 1998 are STILL friends because they CHOOSE to be, NOT because I force it.. We did not work in a relationship, but we remain friends, because that is one of the Roles I filled when we were together.. As a DOM, I CHOOSE to be their (IN order of importance) 1) Protector. 2) Provider.  3) Guide. 4) Friend. 5) Lover..

  As their Protector, I am not one of these insecure wannabe's.. I actually take it as a COMPLIMENT when guys flirt with My girl, or girls.. I avoid violence at all costs as much as possible.. Until SHE tells Me she has a problem with someone.. Whether they're invading her space, getting too familiar, invading her space, or whatever reason.. Once she explains the issue to Me, I approach the person and kindly ask them to refrain.. -smile- if they choose to ignore My request, which IS their right to do, I MAKE them stop.. PERIOD.

 As their Provider.. It is MY job to make sure than ANY need they have is covered, even if that means doing without MY needs or wants in the process.. MANY is the night, in My past, that I went to bed hungry to ensure My Family had full bellies.. Be they people, or pets.. Family is FAMILY..

 As their Guide, it is My duty to understand them, to KNOW them better than they know themselves.. I learn them so well that by the time they realize they WANT something, I am USUALLY already DOING it to them..

 As their Friend, I offer a should to lean or to cry on.. An arm to catch them if they stumble, or to carry them if necessary.. A hand to lift them if they fall.. An ear to listen, or a mouth to give advice if needed/wanted.. BUT.. I do not expect to be their ONLY friend.. My girls are not prisoners.. I push them to find others they can relate to/get along with.. others they can hang out with, spend time with outside the Household, away from the Family structure.. Party with.. Take road trips with.. Be themselves with..

 As their Lover, I believe the description is self explanatory, though I do not believe the extent can be fully understood until experienced,,

 THIS is just MY promise to those coming into My life.. As previously mentioned, I maintain a steady relationship to girls from back to the 1990's.. Once offered, My Friendship is something that remains beyond the relationship until either THEY choose to end it..

Dom

11/13/25

 I may have made this post previously.. I'm not sure, but I do not believe I have done so..

 s there ANY sight as beautiful,

as a woman that KNOWS she is loved? that KNOWS you're there beside her,

When the push comes to a shove?

 The way she melts against you,

The sighs she whispers in your ear,

 The naps together in each others' arms,

The way she lights up when you are near..

 So many perfect moments in life,

The ones ONLY your memories will show,

 The demure smile she gives, that special light in her eyes just for you,

Tell You EVERYTHING You need to know..

 She fully gives herself to You completely, 

Her love, her life is now in Your hands,

 Everything she is has been given to You,

Are You BRAVE enough now to be her Man?

Dom\

10/28/23

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 What is it like to be accepted?

How does it feel to be yourself? 

 to be just as you are, no other demands.

To not be put up on a shelf..

  To live the life you have chosen,

Not to conforming to what others decide,

 To BE just yourself, to choose not to hide

To decide not to the stats quo to abide..

 What is it like to disregard, the normal status quo?

To be yourself, without anyone knowing, 

 With nobody outside to know?

 Would you choose to live to live your life different?

WOUD you choose to show you care?

 When the morning comes, and the dawn's early light,

SHOWS the true depths of your true despair?

Dom

11/5/25