Organized Chaos

She's tired....

She's tired of the psychological mind games and people pretending to be someone their not.

She's tired of the shallow conversations with people that only care about themselves.

She's tired of attention from men with hidden agendas.

She's tired of being treated like an option when she should have been treated like a priority from the first conversation.

She's tired of spending countless nights questioning her own self worth.

She's tired of people not respecting her boundaries and forcing her to do things she's not ready to do.

She's at a point in her life where she wants to be loved correctly or be left alone completely.

~ Cody Bret

Are you familiar with the “Let Them” theory?  

I’ll tell you the more I grow the more I am okay with accepting the “Let Them” in my own life and relationships. Even family can mistreat and disrespect you.  

This is something that took me a very long time to learn. I used to tolerate a lot because I didn't want to lose people. I learned the hard way if they were really my people they would never treat me like that. Don't make the mistake of being so understanding and forgiving that you overlook the fact that you're being repeatedly disrespected.  

Let them be upset.

Let them judge you.

Let them misunderstand you. 

Let them gossip about you,

Let them ignore you.

Let them be "right."

Let them doubt you.

Let them not like you.

Let them not speak to you.

Let them run your name in the ground.

Let them make you out to be the villain.

Whatever it is that people want to say about you, let them! 

Kindly step aside and LET THEM.

The hard truth is they know how much they are hurting you. They just simply don't care. They did it knowing it could cause them to lose you. They did it anyway. People that love you care about how they make you feel. 

The end. 

Let them go. 

There will be people that would rather lose you than be honest about what they've done to you. Let them go.

The lack of respect was the closure. The lack of apology was the closure. The lack of care was the closure. The lack of acountability was the closure. The lack of honestly was the closure. Let them go. 

Make the decision to no longer sit at tables where you might be the topic when you get up. Let them go. 

You can still be kind. You can even still love them deeply. But do it from the distance they created in their words and actions. Access to you is a privilege they have proven they can’t be trusted with. Let them go. 

You don’t need to tell your side of the story. God already knows. Let God fight the battle for you. Let them go. 

It’s taken me a long time to get here. Sleepless nights, countless tears, managing a range of emotions filled with anger, disappointment, confusion and deep hurt. Lots of self reflection, self preservation, deep prayer and seeking wisdom from those much wiser than me.  

If you are struggling with this please know you are not alone. We will never understand why hurt people hurt people. But we can do the hard work to grow ourselves. Because healed people do in fact heal people. 

Don’t you dare let them steal your joy. 

Don’t you dare let them steal your light. 

Don’t you dare let them steal your peace. 

You are in control of that. 

Hold tight to what you can control and release your grip on what you can’t control.

Let them go.   

        🫶🏻 ~ Marie

Just because you get thousands of likes on your profile picture will not keep a man. 

Being honest about things in your past will not keep a man. 

Being faithful and loyal since day one doesn't keep a man. 

Treating a man better than he's ever been treated before doesn't keep a man. 

Making an effort every single day to make sure he knows you truly care will not keep a man. 

Giving him all of your time that you can spare, doesn't keep a man. 

You could have the best intentions in the world and could have the most sincere feelings, and you could be the most perfect woman in existence and you still wouldn't be able to keep a man. 

The only way to keep a man is if that man wants to be kept by you. 

With a man, you can tell he wants to be kept when the relationship gets very hard and he does everything to fight for you. 

A man only fights for a woman he wants to belong to, so if he isn't fighting for you when things get hard, then that means he doesn't want to be kept by you anymore. 

Don't hold on to a man who doesn't want to be kept by you. 

You're not giving up on him. It's quite the opposite. 

It's him who gave up on you, and it's you who shouldn't waste any more of your time than you already have. 

Know when it's time to let go, know when it's time to walk away, and know when it's time for him to be unkept. 

~ Cody Bret

99% of the time this is how I feel opening my Cage emails....

I'm definitely watching. Are you coming? 😉

Don't you love it when people totally misunderstand what you said and how you meant it? 2 replies into the conversation....

Then block you before you have a chance to clarify what you said and how you meant it?

Instead of just asking for clarification or having a conversation with you, like an ADULT....

Don't you just love when they interpret it with their own emotions and project that into what was said, taking it completely the wrong way?

Normally, I let this shit go, but today.....today I've had a long, hard day, and I took the time out to respond to someone, being a busy single mum...... and I'm a little done with it. 

Clearly, I had enough curiosity to respond. Why do people drop something then run off, blocking you???

I totally get where you were coming from in the response you dropped, then ran away..... I guarantee you, you 100% took what I said the wrong way. 

But whatever, if you want to make me the bitch, so be it!

*Hops off soapbox*

#ImTheBitch   

Stop trying to avoid making mistakes and bad decisions...

Because sooner or later you're going to screw up anyway, and you're going to get something wrong...

Whether it be relationships, money, work, life, or anything else, we know that if we want to experience success and happiness in these area's of our lives that we have to make plenty of good decisions...

BUT the ability to be able to make those good decisions can only come from making plenty of bad decisions and mistakes along the way.

When we fail and get things wrong, these are the moments in our lives when we experience the most amount of growth and transformation.

Because when we make mistakes, we think a lot more about what went wrong, what we could have done differently, and how we will approach the future differently.

We don't evaluate things nearly half as much when things are going well.

So stop beating yourself up for those mistakes you've made, and learn the lessons from them instead!

Because unless you do; you'll just keep repeating the same mistakes over and over again until you learn the lesson it's trying to teach you.

Live your life the way you want to live it; have fun, be spontaneous, and allow yourself to screw up sometimes!

Who cares!

You're going to anyway so you may as well hold on tight and enjoy the ride.

So be okay with screwing up from time to time, but take the opportunity to learn from your mistakes, grow from them, and realise that your mistakes are part of the process, not the alternative...

Remember, you're not defined by your mistakes; what's important is what you do with them...

~ Mark Smith

To my sweet wild woman, I know why it hasn’t worked out with anyone else—you don’t need a man, but a goddamn warrior.

You are the strength of Turkish coffee at sunrise darlin’ and don’t try to pretend that you’re not.

You are one of the wild ones, and no matter how you tried to hide that fact, you can’t be anything other than what you are—and that’s okay. You are just as you are supposed to be, magnificently wild in all of your chaotic beauty.

I know you’ve had your heart broken and I know that you don’t understand why it always seems to never work out, but I’ve finally figured it out:

You don’t need a man, you need a goddamn warrior.

It doesn’t matter if this warrior drives a Jeep or a shiny sports car, and it won’t matter if he wears silk or cotton—it will not even matter if he works in a high-rise, or on the night shift.
What is going to matter is that when it comes to taking bets on your heart, he is going to be high stakes—all the way.

This warrior of yours will crave your strength, and your intensity. He’s going to look at you and not see something to tame, but something to just fuckin’ admire.

This warrior of yours won’t be someone that you can manipulate or play with as you have in the past, so honey, don’t even try—and trust me, you’re going to love him even more because of it.

Because you aren’t just a woman, you’re a goddamn goddess.

Your fierceness is going to bring him to his knees every single time he looks into your gorgeous eyes, but the difference is, unlike the others, he isn’t going to be scared off. No, this time, you will have finally met your match—because a simple man for you just won’t do.

You need someone to match the fire in your eyes with his own. Not only that, my little wild thing, but this warrior of yours is going to want to encourage the flames instead of trying to douse them with his own insecurities.

Because for you, a warrior is the only man who will ever live in the wild with you.
He may not have to slay any dragons to earn your love, but he would still walk through fire if it meant seeing that amazing smile that you hold in reserve for only him.

This is the thing, free spirit, this warrior you seek….he’s seeking you too.

For he’s had failed relationships that have left him wondering if maybe he was meant to be alone for the rest of his journey—and you’re going to change all of that for him. You both have been travelling along on your separate journeys and have been doing an okay job at it, but that’s about to change too.

Because baby, when you and this warrior of yours meet and collide—it’s going to be a love set on fire.

Don’t try to run this time—I know your heart has been broken before, and that you’re not used to things working out, but this time it’s different.

Give yourself time to see that.

This warrior of yours needs to see that it’s possible for someone to see all of his wild, and still be there when he craves his freedom and ventures off into this world for a bit. You won’t always need to follow him, just as he won’t always follow you. Let yourself stay wild, even when all you want to do is curl up in that spot along his side and forget the rest of the world exists.

Let yourself still wander naked under the full moon, and drink moonshine with the stars. Let yourself feel the pull of the wind on your heart, and the sun toward a new journey. Because this warrior is going to love you because of your wild—and he’ll want you to keep it.

You’ll be in this together now, this amazing, crazy, chaotic, wonderfully heartbreaking life—because it takes a warrior to love a goddess. And it takes a goddess to show a warrior what real love is.

So pack up your insecurities and your ideas about picket fences, because that was never you anyway.

You were born knowing that you were destined for more, and now is the time for you to see what all those dreams look like.

There is no stopping a love like this, so promise me you’ll hold out just a little bit longer.

Have a little bit of hope, and always give love just one more try, because I promise you my sweet wild woman—the love that you seek is seeking you as well.

Source: Consciousness