Building chemistry with a newbie Sub: For your consideration
1. Patience- There is much to navigate, many "potentials" have approached. Those who have not made the cut were likely too forceful, immature, or a predator. It's about earning a Submissives trust. This has been a forgotten set of facts.
2. Recognize- She has a life, she is not going to be consumed by you within the first day of conversation. In fact, no one should be expected to be fully consumed in all reality. It's improbable.
3. Don't speculate- Making assumptions without asking for clarity is a turn off.
4. Hypersensitivity plague- My dear Doms, turn the switch off. Because someone sets a boundary, has a life and obligations to meet and can't spend hours chatting; does not mean you've been rejected. Calm down. Not everything requires an emotional response.
5. Likeability matters- A new Submissive is going to vett you. This is her right. It does matter how you stand up to the requirements she personally has. So don't pour on the juice, be real, be charming but not fake. If it seems too perfect Submissives like me can tell you're not genuine. The question is are you the man I can also see myself enjoying time with outside of the BDSM narrative?
6. Understand- She also has options. She is searching for a major connection and should be picky and cautious. Just as your entitled to be. And read the profile of who you may be considering to approach. Don't assume she will change her mind and settle for you, especially if there's multiple paragraphs written expressing her desires and boundaries.
7. Outcomes- Don't be attached to them. It's unfair and blocks the flow of potential and positive energy. Getting to know you should take time. No one will jump instantly into a contract from speaking to you on a few occasions. Demanding and asserting your Dominance by being manipulative is a quick way to loose the trust and interest of a Submissive.
Keeping it real. 💯 Take it or leave it.
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