A few years back my mom was diagnosed with a rare form of uterine cancer. As with many people undergoing chemo. She had to cut off all her hair. In solidarity my sister and I did the same big chop buzz cut.
All my life I had long hair. It's super thick, soft, beautiful hair. But it was either kept in a tie or occasionally cut short for convenience. It was also a major chore that at times made me miserable. It's hot and so much to maintain. In my active professional life I spent most of my time sweating and always in motion. My hair was the last thing I worried about as it was always kept in a tie.
Since my mama has healed I continue to maintain the hair cut. As an Indigenous woman our hair is our spiritual connection to everything we value culturally. I found that however for me it wasn't necessary to grow it long to maintain that connection.
I enjoy the freedom of no hassle having my hair this length. I enjoy the fact that my feminine power is not regulated by societies stipulations. Especially the Masculine zealots who believe they can dictate what makes a woman attractive or femenine.
I found that my appearance may be unattractive to few but is irresistible most. For the men who's preference is to have a woman with hair I am not mad at you. It's your prerogative. As it is also mine to be who I desire.
What I wish more humans would realise is this: You have been programmed. Your sense of style is a program. Your vision of perfection is a program. Your life is a program. Your mind is following a program. It is why many speak lowly of and attempted to erase and dominate the diversity around the world from other cultures. They are shallow, egotistical, programed narcissist drinking the kool aid. Beauty is undefined. It can only be perceived. And perception does not equate to truth nor farce. It is only a matter of personal opinion. Opinions are not fact.
HOWEVER, No one person on this planet has the power to dictate the method of which anyone especially a woman chooses to adorne herself physically.
ALSO, in order to deprogram Oneself they must be willing to shed everything which keeps them attached to the program. An ego death is more terrifying than the real kind therefore many choose to remain in the matrix.
For me, furthering my elevation was shedding my hair despite the opinions, negative comments and backlash. It not only allowed me to be brave and present for my mother during her cancer treatment but to be brave and dive deeper into myself. The portal of transcending into my higher self and calling was amplified. My sense of self awareness shifted. Any inhibitions that I held dissolved. The vulnerability of walking as a femenine woman outside of what is expected from me has given me the courage to take leaps of faith. To encourage and empower others. I have become the woman of my own dreams and each day it gets better and better.
Hair or none, I am amazing. I do what I wish. And it doesn't hurt my feelings if anyone is put off by it. That's none of my business.
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