What is it like to trust fully? For me, BDSM is about security and safety. A safe place where we can both live out our shared desires without judgement and with support. For me, it’s an emotional commitment as well. It’s not just in the bedroom. At first I wasn’t into TPE but I find that I need my freedom limited by a Dom who knows how to guide me.
My Dom makes me a better mother. He makes me more open which is a sign of something good. But after all the betrayal and abuse I have been through I struggle to trust fully. If anything is questionable I catastrophize and assume I’m being used or lied to. I need to unlearn that fear.
So does anyone have any thoughts on this? I’m tired of being told everything is a red flag. My desires are not vanilla so they will certainly appear as red flags to others.
Female subs… any tips or thoughts on how you developed complete and total faith in your Dom past or present?
Thank you in advance!