The Goddess Gaze

As a Goddess and Domme who lives the lifestyle 24/7. Again, these are my personal favorite things I like to do to maintain physical appearance, mental relaxation and most importantly—Pleasure.

1. Travel.

When I feel overwhelmed and stressed out I travel. The urge to lay up on a beach with a fruity drink awaits. Nothing feels better than laying on a nude beach and letting my cheeks hang out. I enjoy immersing myself into new cultures, food and tradition. 

2. Self Care Day.

Skincare. Waxes and a candle lit bath. I like to stock up on skin care for my face and body. It’s important to look as good as you feel and vice versa. After I hit up my wax girl and get silky smooth I like to oil up and indulge in a full skin care routine. Occasionally, I book a luxury hotel ( message me for details on the best hotels) and light a few candles around the tub. I pick up a bottle of my favorite wine and play Neo- soul softly as I soak. This heals me. Try it out if you don’t believe me.

3. Dress Up/ Taking Pics.

I enjoy going shopping for new clothes. Getting dolled up with the perfect amount of makeup and a banging outfit feels out of this world. Basking in my feminine energy. I also love taking sexy and erotic pics for my own pleasure to look at. I’ll admit I’m quite the exhibitionist and also enjoy showing off my body and being worshipped on different platforms. ( Dm me if you’re curious)

What self care and activities do you indulge in as a sub or Goddess? 

I’m always get asked what it’s like dating in Atlanta. 
Well… it’s interesting to say the least. Even navigating dating in the vanilla realm can be crazy. You add trying to date while incorporating your kinks and it becomes a real $h!t Show starring me ⭐️.

To be fair, as a bisexual woman who doesn’t shy away from her sexuality Atlanta is ideally the perfect place to meet like minded individuals. We have plenty of kink mixers and underground taboo clubs that are perfect for having a good time and meeting a potential partner.

( Tokyo Valentino. If you know, you know) 

But if I’m being honest what I truly desire the most is a FLR( Female Lead Relationship). And while I have met plenty of potential candidates both online and in person, I have yet to feel the spark in the vanilla department. It’s important to note that I am not looking for a traditional Monogamous Relationship by any means. I have known for a while that I get off the most by being a cuckoldress. That is what I seek and I am 100% upfront about it from the get go. 

For example, a few weeks ago I met up with a guy I had be communicating with for about 2 weeks who also was looking for an FLR. He expressed that he was also into cuckold and wanted a partner that had her fun while he watched locked in chastity. I thought “ This is perfect” because I am looking for the same. He also had experience in his last relationship with similar dynamics.

We shared similar Vanilla interests like cooking, dancing, and traveling. The physical attraction was there and needless to say I was excited to meet and test the compatibility. 

I made the dinner date plans for 8pm- A sexy rooftop restaurant lounge with great food and drinks. Not too loud with an intimate vibe. I dressed in Mid length black dress, black heels and gold accessories. Classy sleek and sensual is the vibe I was going for.

 
He showed up 5 mins after I did ( on time)and I loved his style. Dress shirt, black jeans and suede loafers. We complimented each other well. The man was fine okay. FINE.

We greeted each other and embraced with a quick hug. Im thinking we’re off to a great start. The waitress comes and I ordered our drinks for both of us. We had previously discussed roles and what a FLR looked like for both of us, with him taking a backseat and letting me make the decisions. So this was no surprise to him nor was it rude. 

We’re chit chatting about our day but the conversation was flat. I tried sparking new discussions and asking questions to get him to open up a bit but in person his personality just wasn’t shinning through as much. And I’m a personality type of woman. You need to have a sense of humor, some wit and be able to hold a conversation for me to fall in love lol. 

There were times where there was awkward silence in the middle of dinner where I was thinking of what topic to bring up next. I thought maybe he’s just timid because we just met although he initially presented himself to be an Alpha Sub. Either way the evening did not pan out the way I anticipated and I was left feeling a little lackluster and unfulfilled.

Now here’s where things went really left. The check comes, he pays and asks

” so when do I get to watch you get fucked” .

This caught me by surprise, but I am a woman that will always attempt to take the high road before I mouth off. I said “ Never.” Grabbed my purse and got the hell out of there. On my way home I was thinking about what in his mind convinced him that this date would end with that kind of night cap. All in all I was bored half to death on the date so I wasn’t too upset by the question lol. It was probably the most interesting thing he had said all night. 

And so the Quest continues…

let me know if you guys want me to continue my dating in Atlanta chronicles and keep you updated. 

What are your non negotiables in a potential partner and while dating? 

So you’ve finally found the role you identify with.. Now what? 

Don’t worry I’ve got you covered!

Let’s dive into the sub role and how to attract a corresponding partner. No sub is the same just like every Goddess. It is important that the person you choose not only embodies what you are looking for kink wise but also mentally.

subs/slaves:

To attract the partner you want you will need to come correct and make a great first impression. No matter the nature of your relationship ( fwb, monogamous, or simply a play partner) how you approach and address them will always play a key role.

How do I address them in a respectful way that will result in a response? 

Step 1: Once you see a Domme/Dom has caught your attention, you will need to address them in their proper role. This can be located in their bio online or as “ Miss” or “Sir” until it is clarified. I cannot tell you how many times I have refused to respond to a message from a sub because he did not address me respectfully and with authority.  “ Baby” “ sweetheart” and other words of endearment are a BIG NO unless stated by the Dom. Read your potential Dom/ Goddess’ bio thoroughly before hand. Make sure you have a good idea of who they are and what they seek instead of wasting their time. 

Step 2: Properly introduce yourself. Believe it or not us Doms do want to know who we are dealing with. This helps properly assess if we are a match. Age, sex and location is a good place to start as well as marital status. Lack of detail can be seen as a sign or inconsistency and lack of effort. 

A lot of  subs tend to want to remain anonymous. And while discretion is very important to most, it is vital that you are being transparent about who you are. If you are uncomfortable showing yourself right away, give a detailed description of who you are and what you look like. There is no guarantee that a Dom will take you on without a physical photo but it will help them make a decision on it. 

***Speaking of photos.. DO NOT for any reason send an unsolicited picture of your genitalia or butthole for any reason in an opening message. Matter of fact, don’t ever send one until you are instructed to do so. It is tacky, tasteless and shows a lack of discipline.***

Step 3: Be upfront about why you are contacting a Dom and exactly what you are looking for. When a Dom has a clear sense of what you’re looking for they will be able to decipher if they are interested in what you have to offer. I personally hate being messaged and approached with casual talk and no sense or direction in a message.

If you are a service slave looking to be used, State that. If you are a sex sub looking to be submissive in bed, state that. If you a a humiliation sub seeking chastity and verbal or physical degradation, state that. Be sure to include how your need to serve can benefit your Dom. 
(Ex: “ I would love to serve at your feet and handle any daily tasks you see fit for me”)

While these steps do not guarantee you will snag the Goddess you want it will help train you in how to approach and receive a response. Remember that there is someone out there that is your perfect kink match.

What is your biggest ick when talking to a Dom or sub? 

What makes a Goddess?

 A true Goddess can be spotted from a mile away. Her body, face, scent and aura simply pull you in. You feel the urge to speak to her… be close. You fantasize touching her perfect body. The Power she possesses over you leaves you weak.You want to be SEEN by her.

I am Devine Dani and this is my blog dedicated to Goddesses( Ebony Goddesses to the Front of the line) and the subs that worship them. 

I have been in this lifestyle for 6+ years and one thing I will tell you is it is not for the weak! If you want subs to respect you, you must give them something to respect. I am a sensual Domme who enjoys physical touch but also has a low tolerance for bullshit. The only thing that is soft is my skin.

In the begining of my journey I struggled to find where I fit in the kink community. Being a woman of color, it is extremely important for me to represent for all the kinky Sistas of the world. I found my niche in being a DOMME.

 I have been naturally dominant my entire life; I was born a leader. You are either beside me or behind me, but never in front of me. However, I struggled to find a balance in my vanilla relationship and my kinks behind closed doors. In my vanilla relationship, I attempted to give my partner the dominant role as a man. But it felt like something was missing.

Most of my kinks, involve pegging, face smothering, and discipline. I am very keen to Cuckold and cannot imagine Entertaining another relationship without it being accepted. In fact, I want my partner present in Chasity to play clean up afterwards. There is nothing that turns me on more than getting drilled as my partner patiently watches on his knees in the corners…. eagerly waiting to clean up the mess that my bull made. 

Here on my blog this A safe place to discuss all things Goddess, Domme, and submissive related. I will be telling my personal stories and sharing my thoughts while posting a discussion question at the end of each entry. Feel  free to ask questions, dive deeper into Discussion topics, and keep the convo going. 

Discussion Question: When did you first realize you identify you were a Domme or sub?