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L

2 weeks ago. April 16, 2025 at 4:16 PM

Coming out of my corner for a bit 🫣


L’s journal (get it out of you )

Honesty, D/s, and the Cost of Lies.

 

😮‍💨

I’ve been thinking about honesty, and what it means to trust.

 

I believe that, In a dynamic, honesty isn’t optional. It’s the foundation on where everything rests on. And for some reason it’s the hardest thing to give. 


Real honesty, means exposure. To be honest is to be seen, and being seen means risking rejection. There are fear that creeps in sometimes, ( If I show too much of what a mess I'm,  will I still be worthy? )


I do my best to remind myself, That when I speak my truth, when I own my thoughts and feelings It builds closeness.

 

the thing about submission and honesty it’s not surface-level obedience. It’s a surrender of self, a deep offering that says, "I trust you to hold me, even when I’m messy, even when I’m scared."

 

But that trust—it’s fragile and submission isn’t just about my honesty. It’s about ours.


When a Dom lies, something breaks. To me, safety doesn’t come from control, it comes from truth, trust and communication. Knowing that when I kneel, I’m kneeling on something real.


A lie It’s not just about disappointment. It’s about disorientation. If I can’t trust your word, how can I trust your guidance?


I open myself—physically, emotionally, spiritually 🧘🏻‍♀️ ( and it hurts so much since is hard for me to connect with people and when I do, oh that's nice, till is not ) 
That kind of surrender demands honesty. Not just from me, but from a D. Especially from a D


Honestly isn’t just important, it's sacred. It’s the what holds the whole dynamic together. Honesty must go both ways. If I give you the truth of who I am, I need to know that what you offer me is just as real.


otherwise, what are we even doing?

K y i v​{Walking} - The truth is often inconvenienant, it can be the end of the dynamic but it must be told.
2 weeks ago
intenseoldman​(dom male) - Yeah, well, I'd watch out for someone who thinks they know the truth. I think honesty is less about knowing the truth than being open to learn and grow. It's about being seen like you said. When you are seen the truth speaks for itself. When you're furtive and hide like a weasle, you're a liar no matter how much "truth" you tell.
2 weeks ago
Lunav​(sub female) - agreed!! , someone who hides or manipulates through omission, might technically tell the truth, but it’s still dishonest. There’s a kind of dishonesty in the intent to mislead.

Thank you for saying what you said. It gave me more to reflect on.
2 weeks ago

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