There’s a common misconception that being little means being weak, naïve, or incapable of speaking with authority on our own relationships. That we exist only in softness, in dependence, in a space where we need to be led. And while submission is a part of what we do, it does *not* mean we lack intelligence, self-awareness, or personal power.
I feel most *empowered* as a little when I stand by my rules—not because they were forced upon me, but because they were created *for* me, *with* me, and *by* me and my Daddy. They help me grow, make me emotionally stronger, and give me the confidence to face my fears.
I advocate for myself and others through my writing. Even when people disagree, even when the world doesn’t always welcome my voice, I refuse to shrink myself. I take up space because littles *deserve* space. We are not just a mind space, not just a role—we are whole people, and honoring our littlespace makes us *more* powerful, not less.
Being a strong-willed little doesn’t contradict my submission. It strengthens it. I balance it by having core values that align with my Daddy’s, by listening, by *caring*. I am not submissive because I am weak—I am submissive because I *choose* to be, because my trust in my partner is unwavering.
Yes, I’ve been dismissed for being a little. I’ve been seen as less submissive, less serious, and more fragile than other submissives. But being little has given me emotional fortitude. It has taught me boundaries, resilience, and the ability to say *no* to things I used to struggle with. My vulnerability is my power.
I grow because I *choose* growth. I challenge my mind, I read, I think critically. I heal because I *put in the work*—I go to therapy, I challenge myself emotionally, I confront my wounds head-on. I contribute to my dynamic by listening to my Daddy, serving him, following my rules, and strengthening the community around me. I plan events, help host munches, and show up for my dynamic in ways that matter.
And my Daddy? He *sees* that. He recognizes my voice, my authority, my experience. He trusts me to speak for *us*. He supports me in sharing our most intimate moments to help others understand this dynamic. And that is a deep, undeniable sign of trust.
I’ve met other littles who are forces of nature—who own their space, who command rooms, who sing loud and proud. Being little doesn’t make us weak. It makes us *strong* in ways that many will never understand.
If someone tells you that a little can’t speak with authority on their own relationship, remind them:
Anyone who has been in a relationship for a significant amount of time *knows* that relationship better than an outsider ever could. Ignoring that reality is a failure to acknowledge *truth*.
Being an empowered little isn’t just about being strong in littlespace—it’s about being strong in *all* spaces. It’s about standing on a solid foundation, knowing you can hold your own, and still choosing to let someone take care of you. It’s about healing. It’s about trust. It’s about *knowing who you are* and never apologizing for it.
