how do you meet like minded people?

You know it makes it harder to meet like minded people on sites that literally are what you re into. I would understand if you are trying to hook up but that isn't what I am here for. I am here to meet people. people with the same interests as me in the kink department. I discovered that I was into kinky sex when I was a teen. but I never could find anyone that was into it so I suppressed it. I finally found someone who is into the kinky sex but to a limit. I like to experiment and see what I like to see what they like. that includes swinging. Rope, just the different aspects of bdsm kinks and fetishes. but let us look at this as simply as it truly gets. We as a society in America are so hell bent to make sex just this disgusting thing that you should feel ashamed to never speak about it. That it must only be this way just plain boring vanilla missionary sex. you could be surprised about what people may be into. Then websites like this one puts everything behind a paywall.