Mistress seeking females touch

Talula{Intrigued7} - Aftercare for me is keeping the communication lines open - after all my snuggles and pampering of course! My Sir knows I hate the way I feel needy - it’s almost worse than feeling needy itself!! For me, this tends to kick in a day or so after a session. I really struggle with these feelings so my Sir checks in with me a lot over the next few days and is there if I need him - even if it’s a quick lunch or a coffee. I’m lucky we can do that. It makes such a difference. I know all subs are different so I guess it’s not a one solution fits all!!

Mistress Sasha​(dom female) - I totally understand that. Don’t feel ashamed or feel bad. Thank you for sharing

Sensual City Girl{ForeverHIS} - My after care in-person and over the phone are obviously different, but still given. Over the phone playtime, he talks and walks me down, we discuss how am I feeling, once I’m coherent-lol, I make sure I have my after care kit which has water with electrolytes to stay hydrated, my white chocolate (can’t have regular), any other candy or fruit to give me a boost back up. Even after we hang up, I make sure I have my music playing and I’m doing things to kick up my endorphins and usually I’m ravinous after play and will eat something light. In-person, Daddy will snuggle with me tightly under the sheets, he caresses and talks to me, again we’ll discuss how am I feeling. At times he may play with me again and make cum, and snuggling again. We always have drinks for us readily available as well as snacks to recoup. Sometimes we fall asleep and take a nap.

Aftercare is different for every sub. Hope this helps.

Mistress Sasha​(dom female) - That is very important and I’m glad you brought that up. Staying hydrated and eating some candy after is so so vital. Sessions can drain us physically and it’s important to take care of yourself after. Thank you for sharing

Razz - For us, it's a complete disconnection. When the scene ends I step away from her completely, go do something else for a minute or so while she does a little clean up or whatever. Then we come back together for hugs, intimacy, chats, whatever we feel like.

The break is important to us. It's a clear signal the end has happened, which allows us that space to take a deep breath and move on.

Mistress Sasha​(dom female) - That’s a great example of aftercare! Thank you for sharing

Cherry2000​(sub female) - I am like Razz. We tend to kiss and cuddle for a moment and then go our separate ways for a few minutes to get cleaned up and have a moment to process without feeling the need to hurriedly discuss it. We then crawl into bed, cuddle, and talk..

Razz - We don't kiss / cuddle. We disengage entirely, only coming back together once we've had a few minutes. Kinda the reverse of what you're up to?

Cherry2000​(sub female) - I should have explained that the kiss and cuddle is very brief and how we end each play session. At that point we part for a time.

Cherry2000​(sub female) - I forgot to mention that we do a lot of texting the next day also. That helps with time to process and to keep me turned on through the day by thinking of playtime the night before.

Mistress Sasha​(dom female) - I understand what Razz is saying and Cherry2000 followed up with another great example. It’s impor to break for a short time to clean up, process the scene, hydrate, eat and then come back and provide that care and love that is necessary to stay connected.