Earlier this year, I was broken up with and had to work out life as a single person for the first time in over 14 years. It was a shock to the system and still strange at times.
I sought out genuine connections and wanted to start a new adventure and move forward. I had a fun and flirty d/s relationship. Or so I thought. Sadly I was lied to and it means that relationship has come to an end.
I feel sad for that loss, but I've worked on myself for a long time and I'm a strong person. Therefore anyone I do invite into my life has to be honest and I will not fall into the trap so many do of believing in more lies.
Sir Terry Pratchett, my favourite author, once wrote:
"...You tell them a lie, and then when you don’t need it anymore you tell them another lie and tell them they’re progressing along the road to wisdom. Then instead of laughing they follow you even more, hoping that at the heart of all the lies they’ll find the truth. And bit by bit they accept the unacceptable."
Truth and honesty is what I value most from others and is the foundation of all trusting relationships, especially with d/s. I won't follow anyone down the rabbit hole of lies. I can be at peace knowing I will follow my heart and conscience.