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22 hours ago. Tue 15 Jan 2019 07:53:59 PM IST

I was accidentally reading a post on fetlife and someone was going off about a local dungeon being open during the big yearly event. 

 

They railed about how the dungeon shouldn't be competing with the event. 

 

Let me explain a few things. 

 

I have free play parties during the two yearly events that are in Albuquerque for a lot of reasons. 

 

A lot of folks cant afford their events.

 

A lot of folks feel uncomfortable at their events. 

 

A lot of folks have been actively treated badly at their events. 

 

 

Having options is a good thing. 

 

I also have events during holidays and I have events during other events. 

 

There are lots of people. 

There are lots of different needs. 

 

 

I do not look at what I do as competition.  Because quite frankly I'm not. I am providing a venue for people that dont go to their events anyway. 

 

Deciding when to have events and how is a complex thing. Admittedly nothing that I do in the name of Obsidian is neutral. 

 

They are  all acts of rebellion. 

 

That being said I am not aiming to shut anyone down. 

The racist,  homophobic,  transphobic, bigoted people also need a place to play. 

They cant do it in my space. 

 

Next time you see what appears to be competing events just know that it may not be what you think. 

 

Options are good things. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

1 day ago. Mon 14 Jan 2019 06:10:31 PM IST

Good morning all!

 

 

The play party on Saturday night took it out of me. I spent Sunday in bed. My concussion was raging.

 

 

But this morning I was able to get up and go feed I'm actually sitting outside right now. We got some more snow but it's kind of warm out and horses are vigorously eating.

 

 

I am hoping that my concussion symptoms continue to dissipate to their normal daily level because I would really like to play today.

 

 

I was reading a forum on the cage when I was reminded that Saturday night this most adorable trans girl who I call Kitten got the nerve up to ask me to play.

 

 

It was so cute watching her process as she got up the nerve to ask me. I was sitting at the front like I always do manning the door. I saw her go out and go to her car. I thought to myself I hope that she's okay because she looked really nervous.

 

And about 10 minutes later she came back to the desk and she took a deep breath and then asked.

 

 

 

It was so cute! But I do have to ask her a couple of questions before we play. I don't play with newbies because quite frankly they bore me. That's not ego talking. It's just that more experienced players are able to move more fluidly as the play progresses.

 

Also, newby's tend to send conflicting information to me because they don't quite know what to do or how to process what's going on in the moment.

 

But I have seen her play before in a bottoming capacity. She did say she does want marks because she enjoys those. So I'm rethinking that I might do this.

 

 

 I was thinking that I would fill her with clothespins and then flog those off.

 

 

I'm still too inexperienced at the single tail to use that on her but that would be a joy.

 

 

To be honest with you I'm not even quite sure why I said yes. One of my play Partners is in Ecuador and the other one is really sick. My love has been going through an awful lot of triggers, so play has not been healthy for her. Hopeful that today can change that. 

 

I'm going to go ahead and email Kitten today and see if our play needs this match up. They  may not.

 

The other piece is my concussion.  Since the accident play has been very limited for me. I'm not able to do heavy body impact like I used to. If I'm not careful flogging sets it off. I tend to do more intricate play where I can sit down and really focus. But even then I need time after ro recover. 

 

So we will see.

 

 

Thanks for listening. 

3 days ago. Sun 13 Jan 2019 03:43:17 AM IST

My right hand Lil Miss always I always goes Above & Beyond. Tonight is the monthly Obsidian Play Party.

 

Lil Miss has not only taking over hosting after our previous host ducked out absolutely last minute. She is also baked for the event and is providing a fajita bar!

 

 

Right now I am breaking down equipment, specifically the cross. She already has our two bondage tables. Stopping on the way to pick up paper goods. And needing to be there at least a half an hour early because we have an early bird coming due to their nerves.

 

 

I am really looking forward to tonight. After a very rough three years my love is actually going to be joining us at the play party tonight

 

 

I don't think we'll play, my concussion is Raging tonight. But having her there and knowing that  Lil Miss is on standby that makes me very happy.

 

 

The other thing that really gives me a lot of joy is that Obsidian is fulfilling its Target goal. We are going to have a full house plus some. And more importantly of the type of people that we are catering to.

 

 

Have a great and safe Saturday night everyone!!

3 days ago. Sun 13 Jan 2019 03:25:27 AM IST

My right hand Lil Miss always I always goes Above & Beyond. Tonight is the monthly Obsidian Play Party.

 

Lil Miss has not only taking over hosting after our previous host ducked out absolutely last minute. She is also baked for the event and is providing a fajita bar!

 

 

Right now I am breaking down equipment, specifically the cross. She already has our two bondage tables. Stopping on the way to pick up paper goods. And needing to be there at least a half an hour early because we have an early bird coming due to their nerves.

 

 

I am really looking forward to tonight. After a very rough three years my love is actually going to be joining us at the play party tonight

 

 

I don't think we'll play, my concussion is Raging tonight. But having her there and knowing that  Lil Miss is on standby that makes me very happy.

 

 

The other thing that really gives me a lot of joy is that Obsidian is fulfilling its Target goal. We are going to have a full house plus some. And more importantly of the type of people that we are catering to.

 

 

Have a great and safe Saturday night everyone!!

6 days ago. Thu 10 Jan 2019 05:21:41 AM IST

First OFF!!

 

WE HAVE HEAT! 

 

Second off!

 

I fed the horses with  found that I bought and was able to  sit with  them! 

In 3 feet of snow!  BUT STILL!

 

Third off!

 

My LTD has been  denied !

Why is this good news??

Because they fucked up!!

I have an  AMAZING LTD lawyer that SPECALIZES in  head injuries!

 

 

Fourth off:

 

The check  is coming in  to  get us through  the next three months!  That means that we can  take our time with the appeal! 

 

Fifth off:

 

The bills are stabllized!

 

 

Sixth:

 

I just bought the DOMAIN  for The Through The Looking Glass 

 

ACK ACK ACK ACK!!!

 

I AM SO VERY HAPPY!

 

AND I GET TO BATHE!     

 

 

  

 

 

1 week ago. Mon 07 Jan 2019 02:58:36 AM IST

Today I co-taught a class called Play Party 101. I co-taught with a very esteemed colleague Count here in Albuquerque.

 

 

I had the best time! There was a lot of laughter as their needs to be. There was a lot of questioning which was wonderful. There was a lot of people who brought their experiences forward. And I am so damn happy. I am just glowing!!!!!

 

Next week is the play party that's on the 12th. I'm really excited. Today was exactly what my weary heart needed.

 

 

 

I also want to say thank you to everybody here on the cage because your kindness and support has really helped me become a better person. Thank you everybody

 

 

 

 

 

1 week ago. Sat 05 Jan 2019 03:06:55 AM IST

This Sunday I am teaching a class titled Play Party 101. It is designed for  new people who are nervous about attending play parties and need a little bit of comfort up front before they go. We go through a lot of different things, like:  rules, expectations, and responsibilities.

 

Of the things I touch on is why it's so important to follow the rules of an event.

 It is really important to follow the rules of the event because it protects the venue.

 

A lot of times people will scoff at dungeon or party rules. What they don't understand is that those rules are cultivated with the event organizer and  the host house.

 

 

If we want a venue to keep volunteering for our group we have to have people that going to follow the rules or the host house will not want you back.

 

 

 

Another thing I touch on is what to do if  your event organizer is the problem.

 

 Usually when you go to an event there are at least four people there at any given time  that are helping to organize the event.

 

And can help you   deal with the organizer if the organiser has been inappropriate.

 

 

 

One of the reasons that I cover this particular topic is because I read a study that FetLife had done in cooperation with NC SF.  It stated that 20% of all consent violations were done by a community leader / organizer.

 

 

 It gets to be really important to talk to people about what to do if organizers are inappropriate because there's a really good chance they're going to run into that.

 

 

 

One of the other things that I usually cover is how to control your space when you're in public play. Public play is a completely different animal than private play. A lot of times I will have people that come to me and ask how to in essence "do" play in public without becoming distracted.

 

In essence how do they deal with the crowds.

 

 

 

The other cool thing about this particular event is one; we do it once every other month and two; I get to pick to work with people that I have wanted to teach with for such a long time.

 

 

And it's a lot of fun.

 

 

I send them the run down in advance and the two of us basically play off each other no matter who it is. It is a great great experience for me.

 

 

It's also great to be able to meet some newbies and if our parties aren't really what they are looking for then I tell them to try these other groups. If they are not single, young, newbie females then I will send them pretty much anywhere. If they are looking for sex then I send them to another group. If they're looking for something other than what I can provide and I am very happy to tell them where else to go.

 

 

This class is not only my chance to give back to my community in a way that never happened for me. It is also how I reconnect with my roots.

 

 

Pay it forward!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

2 weeks ago. Tue 01 Jan 2019 05:33:43 AM IST

Its NYE.

 

I've always believed that what happens on NYE is a guide to the rest of the year.

 

 

And in the past I have tracked it and found it true. 

 

So I am trying to remain calm here. 

 

 

As it stands right now:

We have no propane. So no heat, no hot water, no clothes or dishwasher. New policy of COD only. 

 

We have no hay. The neighbors are feeding the horses.

 

We have no dog food. So the dogs are eating pasta. Which one spent the entire day throwing up.

 

The cat box looks like a bad jazz club after a spring break party. 

 

 

We are trapped in our driveway by snow from a freak storm.

 

 

We are all relegated to the  bedroom in the house with a space heater. My love, me, 3 cats, 3 dogs. 

 

I havent had a shower since Thursday.  

 

The water pipes from the washing machine are frozen. 

 

 

When I was heaving over the last pile of dog puke trying to keep myself from puking was when it all just seemed kinda pointless. 

 

 

 

If this is NYE what does this coming year hold?

 

My love gently stood in the bedroom door. Gloves on, boots on. And she said

 

"This is what I see. Our horses are eating. And we get to spend this time in a warm room together. That's what matters. We are together. "

 

 

So I braved the cold and made her dinner. 

 

She is right. 

 

 

 

 

 

3 weeks ago. Fri 21 Dec 2018 01:34:29 AM IST

I JUST BOOKED JAKI GRIOT FOR MAY!!!!!!!

 

https://www.jakigriot.com

 

 

 

I am waiting anxiously for International Bear 2018 to confirm.

 

BUT!!!!!!

 

Get this line up:

 

Mauro speaking on :CONFESSIONS OF AN AIDS LAWYER 

 

Christian speaking on: DRAG AND ITS REALTIONSHIP WITH BDSM

 

 

Alibi for singletail

Count for advanced electric

Kasai for caning 

 

A little's playground with STORYTIME

 

FOOD

 

DUNGEON THAT ALLOWS SEX

DUNGEON THAT DOES NOT ALLOW SEX

 

VENDERS

 

PET PARADE 

 

KINK WALK 

 

 

Holy shit this is happening. 

 

 

Entry fee is donation. VIP rules apply, if you cant afford, come anyway. 

 

 

MAY 18TH 3PM - 2 AM 

 

 

 

 

4 weeks ago. Tue 18 Dec 2018 04:57:52 AM IST

The venue for the event I am putting on May18th  2019 is locked down.

I am working with 5 people.

 

I'm the head, because we are the ones assuming financial risk.

 

Mama is in charge of fundraising. 

My love will dance at the fundraisers. ( I need 2. One for a person in need and another for the event in May).

 

Lil miss and I are in charge of classes for the bdsm buffet.

 

I am in charge of getting the out of town speakers. I want 2.

 

D&R are in charge of venders and the website. 

Tim is my liaison with the venue. 

 

 

Next meeting will be on Feb 5th. 

That's when everything will be locked down and ready to publicize.  

 

The animal group Asher will be planning an animal component.

 

I am getting in touch with someone who can gather and care for the Littles.

 

To my delight there are two great unexpected surprises. 

 

One- we will be allowing sex in one of the dungeons.

 

AND 

 

Two-  the entire thing will be run on donations. 

 

 

That means that when you show up you donate what you can.

If you can go 20$ then great! If you can do nothing then great!!

 

We are also working on food.

We have a person who will do a complete clean after the event. 

 

 

I'm calling the event 

THROUGH THE LOOKING GLASS. 

(Not copyrighted,  I checked)

 

It will have a growth arc from one day event to a 3-4 day event. 

 

I am thrilled and terrified at this new adventure.

 

I'm expecting all of the cage to be here!!!!