It's All Relevant

If I Had It All ~ Dave Matthews Band

Love her like a princess, respect her like a queen, treat her like a lady, Ravage her like a vixen. When the bedroom doors are closed and the lights go out, Set aside the gentleman and his manners. Unleash the wolf and devour her desire. Kiss her forcefully. Embrace her powerfully. Pull her hair passionately. Overwhelm her hunger and leave her craving more.

Love her like a gentleman. Make love to her with primal ferocity. Be a force of nature and sweep her away. Whisper gently in her ear as you kiss her cheek, hold her close as you feel her breath upon your skin. Feel her body undulate as you discover her weaknesses, and listen to her body language as you cover her with kisses. Trailing down her back with the tip of your tongue, Makes her hungry with anticipation.

Make love to her body as you seduce her mind, propelling her senses slowly into a crescendo of climactic pleasure, Hear the fierce beauty of her voice echoing in your ears... as you permeate every aspect of her imagination and reality. Make love to her in every way, tasting every inch of her flesh. She will remember every moment of your body upon hers. Seduce her mind, excite her imagination, tempt her senses, and unlock her deepest secrets... And embrace her soul. She will never leave your arms wanting more. 

*Unknown

Being submissive, to me, isn’t a choice. I didn’t choose for my earliest sexual fantasies to include being restrained, punished, or controlled. You’re submissive whether or not you have a Dom/me or Sir or Master. You’re submissive even if you have a long-distance D/s relationship. You’re submissive even if your D/s isn’t 24-7. You’re submissive even if you’re alone with your thoughts. You’re submissive whether or not you fight it, feel good about it, or bad about it. I’ve done all those things. If you are submissive, and you feel to your core, own it.

~M

For many, BDSM is not merely a physical indulgence but a multifaceted tapestry where the mental and emotional aspects intertwine with the physical. While some may revel solely in the physical sensations and power dynamics, others recognize that true mastery transcends mere physicality.

For many, the allure lies not only in the act of domination or submission but in the profound psychological exchange that occurs between partners. The consensual thrill of control, the surrender of power, and the exploration of boundaries are the threads that weave the fabric of BDSM into a rich and complex experience.

To a large number of people in the community physical play is but the icing on the cake, a tantalizing embellishment atop a foundation built upon trust, communication, and mutual understanding. It is the mental stimulation, the psychological journey shared between dominant and submissive, that forms the cornerstone of this lifestyle.

Mastery in BDSM is not simply measured by one's ability to wield a whip or bind with ropes but by their adeptness in navigating the intricate landscape of the mind. A true master or mistress recognizes the importance of psychological dominance, manipulating desire and anticipation, and delving into the deepest recesses of the psyche to unlock the true potential of their submissive.

In contrast, those who merely pay lip service to the title of master or mistress, focusing solely on the physical aspects of BDSM, often fail to grasp the true essence of the lifestyle. They may revel in the superficial trappings of power and control, but they lack the depth of understanding required to truly fulfill the needs of their submissive.

In the end, BDSM is a journey of self-discovery, a path that encompasses not only the body but the mind and soul as well. While physical play may provide gratification, it is the mental connection forged between partners that sustains and nourishes the true essence of BDSM. So, let us not be swayed by empty proclamations of mastery, but instead, let us seek those who understand that true dominance lies not in the whip, but in the mind.

©TLK2024

Gratitude asked me, "What was it like to love him?" As I pondered the question, I answered, "It was like being exhumed, as if I was buried alive and brought to life in a flash of brilliance. It was an overwhelming feeling that gave me a new perspective on life."

Joy asked me, "What was it like to be loved in return?" I recalled the feeling and replied, "It was like being seen after a perpetual darkness, as if a ray of sunshine broke through the clouds and shone on me. It was like being heard after a lifetime of silence, as if my voice mattered and was finally heard."

Lastly, Sorrow asked me, "What was it like to lose him?" As I reflected on the question, I could feel the world's weight on my shoulders. I replied somberly, "It was like hearing every goodbye ever said to me, said all at once. It was a feeling of emptiness and despair. A void that could never be filled. 

MEMORIES

memories feel like a disease
or some kind of bad infection
spreading in all directions
just memories as far as my mind can see
I don’t want the good with the bad
why can’t this be the only time I’ve ever had?

memories forgive me, please
I’m lonesome without you
but I’m a wreck thinking about you just
memories as far as my mind can see
It’s too sad
looking back

I’m alright of that I’m sure
until I’m crying on the kitchen floor
I swear that I’m fine until I’m traveling back in time
to all those memories

for an hour I forget
and then my heart starts paying debts
if I’m alone for a little while
I can only see his smile
and all those memories

~Margaret Glaspy

The past week has been gloomy with ceaseless downpours, but I was fortunate enough to capture a stunning sunrise this morning. The sky was a canvas of vibrant colors, with a blend of deep orange, soft pink, and gentle purple hues. The clouds looked like fluffy cotton balls, and they were scattered all over the sky, creating an ethereal backdrop. As the sun emerged from the horizon, it cast a warm and radiant glow over the damp earth, illuminating every drop of rainwater. The dew on the leaves sparkled like diamonds, and the chirping birds added a sweet melody to the tranquil atmosphere. It was a breathtaking moment that left me awestruck and rejuvenated my soul
~M.

"Night never had the last word. The dawn is always invincible."
~~Hugh B. Brown

Photo By: Me

Here’s the truth: friendships between women are often the deepest and most profound love stories, but they are often discussed as if they are ancillary, “bonus” relationships to the truly important ones. Women’s friendships outlast jobs, parents, husbands, boyfriends, lovers, and sometimes children…it’s possible to transcend the limits of your skin in a friendship…This kind of friendship is not a frivolous connection, a supplementary relationship to the ones we’re taught and told are primary – spouses, children, parents. It is love…Support, salvation, transformation, life: this is what women give to one another when they are true friends, soul friends.

*Unknown

Money Can't Buy It ~ Annie Lennox ~ Diva

Money can't buy it, baby
Sex can't buy it, baby
Drugs can't buy it, baby
You can't buy it, baby

I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe in love alone yea yea
Take the power to set you free
Kick down the door and throw away the key
Give up your needs
Your poisoned seeds
Find yourself elected to a different kind of creed

I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe in the power of creation
I believe in the good vibration
I believe in love alone yea yea

Won't somebody tell me what we're coming to
It might take forever till we watch those dreams come true
All the money in the world won't buy you peace of mind
You can have it all but you still won't be satisfied

Money can't buy it, baby
Sex can't buy it, baby
Drugs can't buy it, baby
You can't buy it, baby

Now,
Hear this
Pay attention to me
'Cause I'm a rich white girl and it's plain to see
I got every kind of thing that the money can buy
Let me tell you all about it
Let me amplify
I got diamonds?
You heard about those
I got so many that I can't close my safe at night in the dark
Lying awake in a sick dream

I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe that love alone might do these things for you
I believe in the power of creation
I believe in the good vibration
I believe in love alone yea yea

Entering into a BDSM relationship can be both exhilarating and challenging. One significant aspect that warrants consideration is the potential disparity in experience levels between partners. So with this in mind, we will explore the reasons why some veteran BDSM lifestylers may find it daunting to enter a relationship with someone newer to BDSM, explore the challenges faced, and offer suggestions on how to approach the experience gap for a relationship to flourish.

Veterans in the BDSM lifestyle may carry past wounds from relationships where the less experienced partner realized the lifestyle was not for them. This can lead to apprehension, as the veteran has come to understand the importance of BDSM in their life, while the less experienced partner may still be exploring his /her preferences. Past experiences shape our expectations, and acknowledging these lessons is crucial for healthy relationship dynamics.

Communication is key when partners have varying levels of experience. Veterans should openly express their need for BDSM in a relationship, while novices should communicate their willingness to explore and understand their partner's desires. Understanding individual needs fosters an environment where both partners can grow and thrive together.

Instead of viewing the experience gap as a hurdle, both partners should approach it as an opportunity for shared exploration. Veterans can guide novices with patience and understanding, creating a space for learning and growth. Novices, in turn, bring fresh perspectives and an openness to new experiences that can enrich the relationship.

Setting clear boundaries and consent is vital in any BDSM relationship, but it becomes especially crucial when there is an experience gap. Both partners should openly discuss their limits, desires, and comfort levels. Establishing a foundation of trust ensures that exploration remains consensual and respectful.

A successful BDSM relationship is a journey of mutual exploration and growth. Veterans and novices alike should approach the partnership with a willingness to learn from each other. Embracing the journey together allows for a dynamic where both partners contribute to the relationship's evolution.

Finally, a word of concern. Novices should be vigilant against potential exploitation within the power dynamics of a BDSM relationship. While seeking guidance from a more experienced partner, it is crucial to ensure that the wealth of experience is not weaponized to take advantage. Open communication and the establishment of mutual respect and consent are essential safeguards against any misuse of the power dynamic. Novices should trust their instincts and seek guidance within a framework of shared exploration and understanding, prioritizing their well-being and autonomy in the journey of discovering the BDSM lifestyle.

While the experience gap between veteran and novice partners in BDSM relationships can present challenges, it is essential to approach these dynamics with open communication, understanding, and a shared commitment to growth. By acknowledging past wounds, understanding individual needs, navigating the experience gap, establishing clear boundaries, and embracing the journey together, couples can build a relationship that thrives on shared exploration and mutual respect. Love knows no bounds, and with a willingness to learn and grow together, veterans and novices can create their unique happily ever after in the vibrant tapestry of the BDSM lifestyle.

©TLK2024